“Success depends upon previous preparation, and without such preparation there is sure to be failure.” — Confucius “By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.” ? Benjamin Franklin “Spectacular achievement is always preceded by unspectacular preparation.” ? Robert H. Schuller To have a successful approach, be prepared. All of us get approach anxiety. It’s fucking scary. Be-lieeeeeeve me, I […]
Here’s a structure I’ve used to great success. STEP ONE: OPENER Smile “You looked kinda cool, so I had to come over and say hi.” OR “I’ve got this rule that whenever I see someone attractive, I’ve gotta come over and say hi.” Your body isn’t directly facing theirs. Your body faces away from them. Legs […]
credit: http://dc.wikia.com/wiki/Falling_in_Love_Vol_1_17 A while back I read about this experiment done at SUNY-Stony Brook. It gave me a huge “aha” moment. In fact, it was this insight that had helped my success rate with picking up women jump to a whole other level. Here’s the experiment. Psychologist Arthur Aron Arthur Aron. Credit: http://www.psychology.stonybrook.edu/aronlab-/ conducted the series of […]
Here’s a structure I’ve used to great success. STEP ONE: OPENER Smile “You looked kinda cool, so I had to come over and say hi.” OR “I’ve got this rule that whenever I see someone attractive, I’ve gotta come over and say hi.” Your body isn’t directly facing theirs. Your body faces away from them. Legs […]
A while back I read about this experiment done at SUNY-Stony Brook. It gave me a huge “aha” moment. In fact, it was this insight that had helped my success rate with picking up women jump to a whole other level. Here’s the experiment. Psychologist Arthur Aron conducted the series of experiments. He wanted to find […]
How do you touch a woman you’ve never met before without creeping her out? And how do you keep touching her in a way that leads to a kiss, and eventually to sex? The pickup community uses the word “kino” to designate “touch.” Mystery, the towering innovator in the community, defines kino simply. “Physical escalation.” […]
1. First, let’s be clear about what negs are not. They’re NOT meant to put down. They’re NOT meant to cut down an ego. They’re NOT meant to make you look superior. They’re NOT meant to one-up. They’re NOT meant to hurt. If a guy does any of these things, he’s not negging. He’s being […]
“What you resists, persists. What you allow to be, disappears.” -attributed to Carl Jung, source unknown. “Water is fluid, soft, yielding. But water will wear away rock, which is rigid and cannot yield. As a rule, whatever is fluid, soft, and yielding will overcome whatever is rigid and hard. This is another paradox: what is soft […]
Here’s a question for you. You treat others with kindness. But how do you handle people who don’t treat you the same way? I want to be up front. If there’s an area I really want to improve on, and there are plenty, it’s definitely this. But after thinking about this question, reading what others […]
TABLE OF CONTENTS: INTRODUCTION PHASE ONE: ATTRACT A1 Open. 1. Direct 2. Indirect A2. Banter/Neg (part 1 of 2) 1. Banter Lines 2. Funny Stories 3. Kino 4. Contingencies A2. DHV (part 2 of 2) 1. Your Passion 2. Observations About Her 3. Super Optional “Bubble Gum” Routines A3. Qualify (part 1 of 3) 1. […]
