I’m gonna let Mystery talk about first time sex here. He’s got some great words of wisdom.
Mystery: First time sex is very important.
I live in a world of abundance. Seriously. Do you know how many WOMEN are out there?
So, first time sex is NOT about trying to get your rocks off. Have sex with her because you legitimately LIKE this girl.
Sleep with ’em because you like ’em.
I’ve gone through my rockstar phase. I’ve had some hot girls… but they weren’t QUALITY. Crazy, huh?
I personally only go after women who has a sexuality and a personality about them that keeps me engaged.
First time sex is important. Practice up to that part. But don’t have sex with a girl and afterwards you’re like I don’t want to see her again.
Wouldn’t you rather look down and say, “Oh my God! I can’t believe she’s laying here next to me. I deserve this, but holy shit. I’m gonna do my best to be the best man possible, ’cause she inspires me.”
This is from an interview he did with David DeAngelo of David’s “Interviews with Dating Gurus” series.
It’s a point well taken. Be careful who you have sex with. Don’t have sex just to get your rocks off or feed your ego or brag to the guys “I conquered her.” Have sex with her because you actually like her.
So, practice pickup up to the point of sex. And if she’s a girl you honestly like, go for it.
If you are gonna go for it, here are some quick rules of thumb to follow.
1. Tease her, give her lots of arousal, and build anticipation. That means there’s absolutely no rush to stick your dick into her. The more she’s worked up before you enter her, the closer she’ll be to the edge of orgasm. And make sure she comes before you do.
2. There’s no need to be silent just because you’re in bed with her. Talk with her. Tell her how beautiful she looks, describe what you’re doing and use dirty words like “fuck,” “cock,” and “pussy.” Tell her what to do and tell her you like what she’s doing. If you’re feeling good, express it. Make noise. You love to hear a woman get turned on, right? Same thing with women. They love to hear you’re getting turned on.
3. Dominate her, ravish her, unleash the animal inside. But also be sensitive enough to listen to her body and her moans and respond to her accordingly. It’s very much like a conversation. Listen, and respond. It’s not a monologue where you do all the talking or where you’re performing. You’re CONNECTING with this real live human being right here, right now, right in front of you.
4. Enjoy yourself as if you’re eating the most delicious meal you’ve ever had. It’s so delicious and fills you with such pleasure you don’t want it to end. If you make sure to enjoy yourself, I guarantee she’ll enjoy herself too.
I go into more detail on this stuff under the category “Sex.” Check it out.
Oh, and one last thing. Have fun.