Everything I’ve Learned About How To Become More Successful With Women

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The look of attraction

The look of attraction. That’s what I’m talking about











Hey, I’m Renaissan. Thanks for visiting.

I’ve gotten my heart broken, and I’ve made mistakes in my relationships with women. Inspired by the hope Neil Strauss talked about in “The Game” I made the decision to do everything I could to learn how to become more successful with them. What I learned changed my life.

Now I wanna share everything I’ve learned with you. Here’s what you’ll find inside.

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For how to attract women, check out:

For an  overview on the Mystery Method check out:

For the foundation of pickup, check out:

For the practical stuff check out:

I’ve also got articles on pleasing women in “Sex” and keeping a relationship alive in “Relationship.” And as some inspiration I’ve created a gallery of quotes, pics, and videos under “Gallery.”

I really hope all this stuff helps you on your journey on being more successful with women. It’s changed my life. I know it’ll change yours.


51 responses to “Everything I’ve Learned About How To Become More Successful With Women

  1. fahmy

    September 10, 2013 at 4:56 am

    i am going to read your stuff- expecting a rial material – cos more only touch from out


    • renaissan

      September 10, 2013 at 8:15 am

      Sounds great. Let me know how you like it or if you have any questions. And thanks for checking it out!


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    January 8, 2014 at 5:20 pm

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    • renaissan

      January 9, 2014 at 1:42 pm

      Thanks for the kind words. It’s very encouraging. And for the heads up.

      By the way, what is IE? And what kind of issues are you getting? Loading problems? Maybe I can contact WordPress and bring it to their attention. Thanks again for the heads up.


  4. Gabor

    March 26, 2014 at 8:46 am

    Hey, do you know a guy who made his own pickup videos? We are searching for them for our new site


    • renaissan

      March 26, 2014 at 9:18 pm

      I’d recommend Social Kenny of He makes a ton of videos. I might be able to submit a few videos to you as well.


  5. Ed

    April 16, 2014 at 6:14 pm

    Great Blog, heartfelt thanks mate, very useful stuff. Regards.


    • renaissan

      April 16, 2014 at 9:41 pm

      Much appreciation. Thanks for taking the time to write that encouraging comment.


  6. Andy

    April 24, 2014 at 7:12 pm

    Brilliant, very much enjoying the read.


    • renaissan

      April 28, 2014 at 1:20 pm

      Thank-you! Can’t tell you how much that means.


  7. Kurtis

    May 18, 2014 at 11:21 pm

    Amazing blog! I am by no means anywhere near a frequent reader, I can literally count on my hands how many books I have read in my life. I have never been so intrigued to read as when I stumbled upon your blog. This blog is jam-packed with amazing tips, and I agree with nearly every single line written. Fantastic job, renaissan, you have written this blog beautifully!


    • renaissan

      May 28, 2014 at 1:09 am

      It’s comments like these that make me want to keep going. I’m very much a student with women (always will be), and writing this blog helps me learn this stuff better. I LOVE writing about it, and I’m glad you may gotten something out of it, too.

      Speaking of writing, I’m almost done with my book. It’s called “The Mystery of Women.” It’s comprehensive and it’s all new stuff. It’s coming out soon. Thanks for taking the time to read and giving me those kind words.


  8. Sean

    May 21, 2014 at 5:48 am

    I love you man. U got a lot of good stuff here. im going to read all your articles. Thank you so much


    • renaissan

      May 28, 2014 at 1:14 am

      Hahaha! Are you kidding me? Thank YOU! Let me know what you think. And if you’ve got any questions. Would love to answer ’em.


  9. Cupid_007

    May 22, 2014 at 9:32 pm

    your site is full of highly useful and practical pua wisdom. looking foreword to reading it and learning from you🙂


    • renaissan

      May 28, 2014 at 1:18 am

      High compliment coming from you, man. ‘Cause I know you know your shit. I look forward to checking out your blog and learning from you as well.


  10. Olayinka

    July 17, 2014 at 1:39 pm

    I really enjoy your various post, very and informative to share to others.


  11. Rick Dutch

    September 17, 2014 at 6:04 am

    Renaissan! Good to see such an alive website with amazing articles!
    I’ll surely send people over this way.

    Keep it up brother! Greets from Holland🙂

    Liked by 1 person

    • renaissan

      September 17, 2014 at 1:02 pm

      My man from the Netherlands! Great to hear from you Rick. Thanks for the visit and for the hype. Hope you’re well.


  12. Brett

    September 19, 2014 at 8:00 pm

    Hello renaissance, I really enjoy your blog, your the first game expert I’ve seen that’s explained what to do in regards to flirting. I did have a question, regarding women in the classroom setting. I’m having trouble connecting with women though. I’m friendly, and very confident and it’s not hard for me to get a girls number, but I ask way to many questions about themselves
    what banter, or connecting topics can I use in a classroom college setting to show a playful side? Like opening up a conversation or something that I can do more than once?


    • renaissan

      October 1, 2014 at 1:50 am

      Thanks for the kind words, Brett. Those are always encouraging to hear.

      Classroom settings are a different ballgame than approaching a woman cold on the street. One of the rules of play-fighting is to do it within the first two sentences out of your mouth. If you’ve been seeing a girl on a regular basis (i.e. in class) it might be strange to come out-of-the-blue with a play-fighting line. Connect with her. Here’s a great tip on how…

      …To bypass the “asking-too-many-questions” issue: self-disclose first before asking a question. After she answers your question, comment on her answer before asking another question.

      This avoids the two pitfalls of conversation: the lecturer (talking too much) and the interviewer (asking too many questions).

      Example: “My passion in life is writing.” (Self-disclose/share something cool about yourself.) “Are you a passionate person? What lights you up?” (Asking a question after you’ve shared… when you share first, it makes it more comfortable for her to share.) “You’re into animals? That’s so cool. I find people who are into animals have a huge heart. What’s your favorite animal?” (Commenting on her answer before asking another question).

      My guess is you’ve probably already got attraction. Especially if you’re confident and friendly. Maybe all you need is MUTUAL self-dislosure and a connection, where you share yourself, get curious about her, and find “me too” moments. For example: “You like cats? Me too! I love how self-sufficient they are.”

      My suspicion is you’re pretty much there. Instead of learning a play-fighting line for a classroom setting maybe all you need is to connect with her.

      Once you’re on a Day 2, or you’re texting her (check out: for more), maybe you can inject a little play-fighting there.

      Please let me know if this helps at all. I’d love to hear from you again.


      • Brett

        November 22, 2014 at 9:42 pm

        Renaissan, I just saw your comment. Because I have gmail, it put my subscription emails into my promotions instead of primary. Thank you so much for the comment, I read it and was so pleased to see you responded. I actually started using this method of asking a question and then commenting, because i knew for a fact that I was interviewing too much. I have attracted and gotten 3 numbers in my classes. Its been working, I am moving to a big university instead to get out of a commuter school and am going to vigorously work hard on upping my game. I am working now of corse, approaching cold in coffee shops, stores etc. Which brings me to my next question, I show good DHV, and am good at bantering, but I have a problem with emotional connections, I had a girl in my class actually who tried telling me over text that she was having a horrible day but could’nt talk about it. I tried telling her she could trust me, and failed to emotionally communicate, My question is whether on first meeting someone, or talking to them, how do you emotionally connect especially a girl, how do you talk about emotional things? Also I wanted to hear your opinion on the Manosphere blogs, like return of kings, Red pill etc…. Do you agree with that style of game? Would love your opinion on this even if you broke down your view on the rights, and wrongs of redpill. Thank you again, Your blog has helped me cross miles in a matter of a month or so.


    • renaissan

      November 29, 2014 at 1:14 am

      The girl you said “you can trust me” to: the best way to have her open up to you is for you to open up to her… first. That’ll make her feel comfortable to do so. And it’s only fair.

      The other problem may have been that you asking her to open up to you through text. If I was having a horrible day, the last thing I’d want to do is type all that as a text message.

      Here’s the short answer to creating an emotional connection with a girl: connect with your own emotions first.

      That means keep things emotional. It doesn’t matter what you talk about. If you’re connected to a feeling, she’ll in turn connect to the feeling you’re feeling.

      For example, you could be talking about guitars, and she knows nothing about them. But if when you’re talking about guitars with excitement, she’ll connect with that excitement and feel that emotional connection with you.

      Same thing if you talk about romantic memories. Let’s say you talked about your most romantic date then asked her “what was your most romantic date?” She’d be connecting with those emotions.

      Or let’s say she asked you, “what you do?” You could answer factually, “I’m an accountant.” No emotional connection there. Or, you could talk about what you do with passion. If what you do doesn’t fill you with passion you could talk about what your passion in life is. That would allow her to connect to that feeling of passion with you.

      So, creating an emotional connection has to do with connecting to emotion first. That takes making yourself vulnerable, opening up to her, speaking about emotions, and speaking with emotion. In all those cases, she’ll be connect with the emotion you’re feeling in her presence. And she’ll feel more comfortable opening her emotions to you in turn.

      Now, if you’re also asking about how to build trust and comfort with a girl, that takes time. Spend between four to ten hours with her. Let her see what you’re like. Let her see what you’re like with other people. Let her see you’re not a psycho and out to “get” her. Let her see your humanity. Let her feel like a “couple” with you by into places together. Time helps build comfort and trust.

      As for question about the “Return of Kings” and “Red Pill” sites, I hadn’t heard of them until you mentioned them. Thanks for bringing those to my attention. I couldn’t find the “Red Pill” site but I found “Return of Kings.” Without having delved too deeply into one, it looked legit. I’ll have to check it out more, though.

      Let me know if this answer has helped you out at all… keep up the great work.


      • Brett

        December 6, 2014 at 7:51 pm

        Renaissan, I took your advice on talking about emotional things and its working like a charm. Now im the type of guy that can relate very well to other women when it comes to emotion. I can get people to open up to me, but my problem is women love to tell me about problems there going through and its breakup problems. I want to give helpful advice as a man who she could date or be attracted to, not as the buddy who gives friendly relationship advice. What is your advice on giving masculine, strong, advice that doesnt put you in the friend zone. So i guess what would be good is telling me the difference between being a nice guy she talks to about her boy problems and being the man she can come to with her problems but feel safe, attracted to. Thank you so much renaissan.

        By the way for the redpill community return of kings, goodlookingloser, roushV, realchristianmcqueen, are all great examples, and look up the reddit redpill as well. I just wanted to let you know because many men are getting into the red pill community. Thought you should see what its like


  13. Brett

    September 23, 2014 at 3:12 pm

    Renaissan, Ive come out of a long term relationship, so I’m trying to score the first girl in 6 years after my ex. I’m confident and have no problem getting a number, but I struggle creating that attraction, I’m charismatic and am outgoing, what are good ways not to get friend zoned, and what’s ways to set up attraction in a small college classroom setting. I really enjoy your blog by the way. Ive never seen so much material that explains everything perfectly step by step. I also know you start with playful banter(some good ideas for playful banter? ), then qualify. Some of these girls I followed another guys model to get numbers, but failed to set up attraction, how can I start this?


    • renaissan

      October 1, 2014 at 2:24 am

      Probably the best thing I’ve learned about creating attraction is this: women are attracted to the way you make them feel when they’re around you. Positive, upbeat energy attracts women like a nice rack attracts us. Positive energy is pleasurable. If she feels pleasure around you, she’ll link that feeling to you and want to be around you more and more. That’s attraction.

      Play-fighting works well because it’s a blast of positive energy.

      Another reason it works is because you play the role of a dominant man and her the role of this “cutie” chasing you. And because she’s chasing you, you’ve got to push her away.

      As the law of opposites go, we pursue that which retreats from us. So, opposing her sparks energy. Do this in a playful way and you’ve left the world of fact and have brought her into the world of imagination… which feels so much better. Instead of having to be overly serious adults, you get to be kids again.

      Finally, playing the role of the dominant one and her the cute one is playing the role of the masculine role versus the feminine role. Which creates SEXUAL energy. I’ve got some examples of what play-fighting looks in my “Flirting” post, my “Routines Collection” post, and in my “Game, Part 2” post. One of the best programs out there that teaches you how to do this is Lance Mason’s “Charismatic Conversations.” The only downfall to that is it’s pricey.

      As for the question about the friend-zone: this happens when a guy has attracted a girl, and is building comfort with her, but fails to make a move on her. So, to avoid this from happening we’ve got to make a move. It’s scary because we might get rejected. But no fear. If she’s not ready, stop and try again later. Until she feels comfortable enough. I lay out an entire plan on how to make a move in my “Kino” post.

      By the way, that’s awesome you’re back in the game. It’s a shit-load of fun. And a huge thanks again for your kind words. You totally made my day.


  14. babloo

    October 27, 2014 at 4:31 am



    • renaissan

      October 28, 2014 at 8:19 pm

      Tell me about it! But I learned this stuff from guys wiser than me.


  15. Derek

    November 7, 2014 at 5:53 am

    Dude!! I’ve been following your articles for almost an year now, and man! IT WORKS!!
    I’m not as good as you or anything, but its completely changed my life.. After reading this, I realized i’ve been doing everything in the worst way possible, I tried a lil bit of change and the results are amazing! Keep up the good work bro! ANd thank you soo much!


    • renaissan

      November 9, 2014 at 8:35 pm

      Now that’s the type of comments a blogger loves seeing. Awesome man! Keep up the great work. Out of curiosity, what did you try that had worked?


  16. things women need

    November 16, 2014 at 5:41 pm

    Hi dude impressive website!! But when does the man’s guide come out ?


    • renaissan

      November 17, 2014 at 3:36 am

      Thanks brotha! I’m coming out with a shorter book in December. It’s called “How To Pick Up Chicks in Five Simple Steps” and it’s killer. The main, larger ebook “The Mystery of Women” will be coming out in the Spring. It’s gonna be the most comprehensive product out there on success with women. Thanks for asking, man!


  17. Agwings george

    December 15, 2014 at 2:27 am

    I like it


    • renaissan

      December 18, 2014 at 3:22 am

      Thumbs up, man. That’s what I like to hear.


  18. nignig

    December 19, 2014 at 7:20 pm

    renaissan nice blog ..I read yer articles on the VA forum and I am follower of the mystery method as well, I don’t see too much on dhv stories with dhv spikes are they not important!!!!


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    April 2, 2015 at 6:49 am

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  20. Jimmy

    June 16, 2016 at 10:25 pm

    I would like to how I know that my wife is in the mood. Like last night I was playing and cross her legs and wouldn’t let me play so I turn the other way so she did to. So I started to play from the back side then she said if what you better due now so I played for a bit then I put my dick in her but she didn’t enjoy it but I felt bad so I pulled it out and got up and went outside. She was a sleep when I got back to bed. I what sex more but she never in the mood.what should I due take matter in my hand and Jack off. I lost what to due


  21. Jimmy

    June 19, 2016 at 11:24 am

    I getting nervous about my wife she hasn’t been the same. She use to let me play in bed and be naked in bed but now she wears close to bed and she doesn’t let me touch her any more


  22. verma

    July 14, 2016 at 2:57 pm

    These R good articles it is like by every one.


    • renaissan

      August 3, 2016 at 3:14 pm

      Thanks my man! I appreciate the comment a lot.


  23. Jimmy

    July 20, 2016 at 8:09 pm

    I was having sex with my wife the other night and I thought I would move my cock around inside her and she push me off and went to sleep so what should I do


    • renaissan

      August 4, 2016 at 12:02 pm

      She pushed you off because you moved your cock around inside her? That doesn’t sound nice. Rather than pass any judgments though, let me ask this question.

      What’s your relationship like with her outside the bedroom? Any issues outside the bedroom often seep into the bedroom. For women, the relationship and the sex life aren’t separate things, but are part of the same continuum.

      Perhaps the first step may be addressing relationship issues first. You can do this by having a heart-to-heart with her. Ask how she feels in the relationship. Listen to what she says.


  24. Michael

    August 23, 2016 at 6:55 pm

    You’ve really inspired me.
    I’ve had this “playful banter” with my best friend, who I fell in love with.
    The best most fun times of My life.
    We never kissed or had sex.
    But I definitely felt the energy.

    We don’t talk or hang anymore.

    But I was wondering if we ever did reconnect in the future would the
    Feeling stay within us possibly ?
    Because of our chemistry we shared

    Or does it does it go away?

    I would really appreciate an answer.

    I’ve been searching & searching please” help!”


    • renaissan

      August 28, 2016 at 1:57 pm

      Here’s the cool thing about “playful banter.” It’s a tool that CREATES “chemistry.” That’s why learning it was such a revelation for me. I could create “chemistry” with complete strangers out of thin air.

      So, if you saw your best friend again and you continued to have “playful banter” with her, you can bet big bucks that chemistry would still be there.

      My point is “chemistry” can sometimes imply you sit back and wait to see if you have chemistry with a person or not. “Playful banter,” on the other hand, is a concrete way to create “chemistry.” It implies you can actively do something about it–you don’t have to wait to see if it magically appears.

      Of course it takes two to tango, so hopefully your best friend would banter back and the two of you would enjoy the exchange together. I have a feeling that won’t be an issue, though.

      Only other thing I’d add is this: if a relationship is based only on “playful banter” it’s in danger of being superficial. Playful banter needs to be anchored with substance, with rapport–something like a mutual, emotional connection.

      The short answer is, the chemistry could definitely still be there with your best friend. But you can play a big part in ensuring that happens.


  25. Jim

    September 28, 2016 at 4:45 pm

    I have this problem when I have sex with my wife and I cun to fast and I been doing what some people told me what to due and I like to know if rubber will help but I hate wearing them because I can’t fill her on me plus I don’t think I should because she and I married


    • renaissan

      October 3, 2016 at 12:19 pm

      Try out a condom if you’d like to see if it helps with self-control. But also keep practicing the tips I gave you. They’re a deeper solution to the issue.



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