How To Attract Women

Here are some of the best insights I’ve learned about HOW to attract women:

1. Male Cleavage.


You have the equivalent of this for women. That is, having positive energy

The male equivalent of female cleavage is… Having a positive energy.  That feeling-good you emit is the equivalent to a nice pair of tits.

Here’s another thing. Even the worlds’ greatest pickup artists don’t get the girl 100% of the time (it’s more like 50%).

You’re not going to get every girl. That’s okay. You might get shit tests. That’s okay, too. Just give “feeling good.” You’ll be all set.

The best way to get this cleavage right NOW? Smile on the approach. And banter.

(Credit: Lance Mason, “Real World Rapport”)

2. Banter.


Make believe she’s hitting on you and you’re running away from her.

“The key to attraction is banter. What is banter? It’s playful dominance. Banter is play fighting.”
~Lance Mason

3. Three Things Girls Look For In A Man.


Three things girls look for: Smile, made to laugh, a connection

3 things girls look for most in a man: a great smile, to be made to laugh, to feel a connection.
~Mystery, from a Fall 1998 post.

From: Mystery’s Field Reports from 1998-2006 (gotten as a bonus with the book “Revelations” from In this quote, Mystery was still figuring out how to be successful with women. During a game called “Hot Seat” with some girls at a party, they said this to him. It gave him an “aha” moment.

  • So, smile and have LOTS of positive energy. (The positive energy is like social freedom.)
  • Make her laugh by bantering with her.
  • Finally, make her feel a connection when you self-disclose yourself (i.e. DHV… to the group if approaching a group) then ask her a question that self-discloses herself (i.e. qualification) and APPRECIATE her on her answer.

It sounds simple, I know. But it’s all you need to attract her. Take the lead, and give her “feeling good.”

12 thoughts on “How To Attract Women

  1. Cupid_007

    this is why being in state is so important. it’s hard to make others feel good if don’t even feel good yourself. you can’t give what you don’t have

  2. Nick Zalan

    I’m only 13 years old but the key aim of this “positive energy” thing is to make the girl feel comfortable right? I did want to ask anyone here though i’m uncertain if this girl that i met onboard a canoeing trip this summer likes me because on a bus ride to one of our camps she kept on tickling me a lot and she also offered to help our canoeing group pack up from one of the camps. please do not get mad at me for poking around these attraction sites though i just want to improve my dating/attraction knowledge, thanks

    1. renaissan

      You’re definitely getting a good head start.

      As for the “positive energy” thing, we humans seem to be motivated by pleasure and pain. We avoid things that are painful, and we pursue things that are pleasurable.

      If you have negative energy, it links pain to you, and people will tend to avoid that. If you have positive energy, it links pleasure to you, and people tend to want more of it.

      That’s really the aim of positive energy. To give a girl “feeling good” so she associates that with you.

      It’s interesting because we tend to fall in love with the feelings we have around a person rather than their qualities. In other words, honesty and kindness are super important. But without a little bit of laughter, appreciation, believing-in-yourself you still might not attract. Those things give her “feeling good.” It’s positive energy. But it sounds like you’ve already got it.

      That girl from the canoeing trip… sounds like she may have liked you. See? You’ve already got what it takes.

      The next step might be to get to know her a bit, and let her get to know you. If you like each other, don’t hide the fact. Let her know. No one dislikes feeling liked, especially when it’s based on legitimate reasons.

    2. Timbo

      Yo, ur not alone, I’m 14, but the difference between us is why we’re here.

      Basically we are both here for the dating advice, except you are coming at it from a first time perspective, whereas I have been researching this stuff since I was 10, and I’m just looking forward confirmation, and new info, and Moore personal suggestions.

      Keep doing what you are doing, and you’ll go far.

      And if you can, get your hands on shogun method, by derek rake.

      That’s all,


      1. renaissan

        You’ve been researching this stuff since you were 10?! My God. 10 is too young. That’s before you’ve even hit puberty. How does a 10 year old begin researching this stuff? For me, I started seeking this stuff out only after much heartbreak.

  3. Jack

    Ren, this site is awesome. I’m subscribed. Been looking for something like this. I’m a rookie, and have so much to learn. Going to start the “daily walk” this week. Simple. Small steps. Perfect. Keep up the great site!

    1. renaissan

      FANTASTIC! And thanks for the vouch of confidence. It means a lot to me. Let me know if you have any questions whatsoever. I’d love to answer them. Good luck, it’s an awesome journey. And you’re right… it begins with a simple step. Thank-you for writing in, man.

    1. renaissan

      Guys usually find themselves in the friend zone when they don’t physically escalate. They may have attracted a girl, but may have been afraid to “make the move” because they didn’t want to get rejected. I wrote a post about everything I learned about how to physically escalate over here: Let me know if this helps at all.


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