Getting ready to read some quotes

Getting ready to read some quotes

Here are some pearls of wisdom relevant to not only success with women, but being an excellent man. I’ve divided these quotes into three main parts: Inner-Game, Outer-Game, and Martial Arts Quotes. Here’s how each part breaks down:

:::Table of Contents:::

I. Inner-Game

  1. Integrity
  2. Discipline and Persistence
  3. Dealing with Sadness and Rejection
  4. It’s Okay To Make Mistakes
  5. You Create Your Own Reality
  6. The Mind
  7. On Having  Direction
  8. Social Freedom: Who Cares What People Think of You?
  9. Empathy

II. Outer-Game

  1. Qualify
  2. Philosophers on Seduction
  3. From The Community
  4. On Seduction and Sex
  5. On Women
  6. Relationship Maintenance

III. Martial Arts

  1. Martial Arts Quotes Relevant To Venusian Arts


Inner-game and self-reflection. Drawing by M.C. Escher, 1935.

Inner-game and self-reflection. Drawing by M.C. Escher, 1935.

1. Integrity

Soren Kierkegaard

Danish Philosopher Soren Kierkegaard, Grandfather of Existential Philosophy. 1813- 1855

The majority of men are subjective towards themselves and objective towards all others, terribly objective sometimes–but the real task is in fact to be objective towards oneself and subjective towards all others.” – Soren Kierkegaard, Papirer VIII (A165, Alexander Dru, translator, p. 676) as quoted by Howard and Edna Long, translators of Works of Love in “Translator’s Introduction” (New York: HarperTorchbooks, 1962), p. 13.

2. Discipline and Persistence



“Self-respect is the fruit of discipline.” – Abraham J. Heschel


“Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent.” –Calvin Coolidge, 1872 – 1933, 30th U.S. President


“Discipline gives total freedom; it allows you to go beyond limitations, to break through boundaries and reach the highest goal.” — Chidvilasananda

“If you never take risks in life, you’ll never see anything new” 
? Blake Lewis

“You have failed only when you quit trying. Until then, you’re still in the act of progression. So, never quit trying and you’ll never be a failure.” —Tommy Kelley

“Anyone can give up, it’s the easiest thing in the world to do. But to be able to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart; that’s true strength.” -Unknown, From Erospainter.tumblr.com

“Pain is only weakness leaving your body, so dont give up because it hurts … keep going cause it makes you stonger.” – Brandon Moore

“That which doesn’t kill me, will make me stronger!” – Friedrich Nietzsche

Hell, yeah

Hell, yeah

“We do not rise to the level of our expectations. We fall to the level of our training”

“True strength is the flower of Wisdom, but its seed is action.”

“Victory is reserved for those who are willing to pay its price.” – Sun Tzu

“It does not matter how slowly you go so long as you do not stop.” – Confucius

The gem cannot be polished without friction, nor man perfected without trials.” – Confucius

“Only one who devotes himself to a cause with his whole body and soul can be a true master.  For this reason, mastery demands all of a person.”

“The more you sweat in training, the less you will bleed in battle.” – Motto of Navy Seals

3. Dealing with Sadness and Rejection

Merlin. From Disney's "Sword in the Stone"

Merlin puffing on his pipe. From Disney’s “Sword in the Stone.”

“The best thing for being sad,” replied Merlin, beginning to puff and blow, “is to learn something. That’s the only thing that never fails. You may grow old and trembling in your anatomies, you may lie awake at night listening to the disorder of your veins, you may miss your only love, you may see the world about you devastated by evil lunatics, or know your honour trampled in the sewers of baser minds. There is only one thing for it then — to learn. Learn why the world wags and what wags it. That is the only thing which the mind can never exhaust, never alienate, never be tortured by, never fear or distrust, and never dream of regretting. Learning is the only thing for you. Look what a lot of things there are to learn.”— T.H. White, “The Once and Future King”

4. It’s Okay To Make Mistakes

Herman Hesse, German poet, novelist, and painter. 1877 – 1962

Herman Hesse, German poet, novelist, and painter. 1877 – 1962

“I learned through my body and soul that it was necessary to sin, that I needed lust, that I had to strive for property and experience nausea and the depths of despair in order to learn not to resist them, in order to learn to love the world, and no longer compare it with some kind of desired imaginary vision of perfection, but to leave it as it is, to love it and be glad to belong to it.” –Herman Hesse via nonedusa.

5. You Create Your Own Reality

Creating your own reality

Creating your own reality

“I have come to the frightening conclusion that I am the decisive element. It is my personal approach that creates the climate. It is my daily mood that makes the weather. I possess tremendous power to make life miserable or joyous. I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration. I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal. In all situations. It is my response that decides whether a crisis is escalated or de-escalated, and a person is humanized or de-humanized. If we treat people as they are, we make them worse. If we treat people as they ought to be, we help them become what they are capable of becoming.” ~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

“We can always choose to perceive things differently. We can focus on what’s wrong in our life, or we can focus on what’s right.” – Unknown, From Erospainter.tumblr.com

“You may believe that you are responsible for what you do, but not for what you think. The truth is that you are responsible for what you think, because it is only at this level that you can exercise choice. What you do comes from what you think.” -Unknown, From Erospainter.tumblr.com

“I’ve learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow. I’ve learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights. I’ve learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you’ll miss them when they’re gone from your life. I’ve learned that making a “living” is not the same thing as making a “life.” I’ve learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance. I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw something back. I’ve learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision. I’ve learned that even when I have pains, I don’t have to be one. I’ve learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back. I’ve learned that I still have a lot to learn. I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” ? Maya Angelou

“Love is what we are born with. Fear is what we learn. The spiritual journey is the unlearning of fear and prejudices and the acceptance of love back in our hearts. Love is the essential reality and our purpose on earth. To be consciously aware of it, to experience love in ourselves and others, is the meaning of life. Meaning does not lie in things. Meaning lies in us.” -Unknown, From Erospainter.tumblr.com 

“Something amazing happens when we surrender and just love. We melt into another world, a realm of power already within us. The world changes when we change. the world softens when we soften. The world loves us when we choose to love the world.” -Unknown, From Erospainter.tumblr.com

“See first with your mind, then with your eyes, and finally with your body” – Yagyu Munenori

6. The Mind


Success begins in your mind. Positive thoughts or negative thoughts. Either way, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy

“He Who Knows Others Is Wise. He Who Knows Himself Is Enlightened.” – Tao Te Ching

“Given enough time, any man may master the physical. With enough knowledge, any man may become wise. It is the true warrior who can master both….and surpass the result.” – Tien T’ai

“Act like a man of thought – Think like a man of action.” – Thomas Mann


Mental bearing (calmness), is not skill, it is the sign of a matured marital artist (or Venusian Artist). A martial artist (or Venusian Artist) therefore should neither be pompous nor arrogant.” – Tsukahara Bokuden.

“Talk is easy – ACTION is difficult. Action is easy – TRUE UNDERSTANDING is difficult!”

“One finds life through conquering the fear of death within one’s mind. Empty the mind of all forms of attachment, make a go-for-broke charge and conquer the opponent with one decisive slash.” – Togo Shigekata.

“The undisturbed mind is like the calm body water reflecting the brilliance of the moon. Empty the mind and you will realize the undisturbed mind.” – Yagyu Jubei

“It is the very mind itself that leads the mind astray; Of the mind, Do not be mindless.”

“To think, “I will not think” – This, too, is something in one’s thoughts. Simply do not think about not thinking at all.” – Takuan

“The no-mind not-thinks no-thoughts about no-things.” – The Buddha

“Be master OF mind rather than mastered BY mind” – Zen Saying

7. On Having Direction


“Your work is to discover your work and then with all your heart to give yourself to it.” – Buddha 

“It comes down to a simple question: what do you want out of life, and what are you willing to do to get it? Be specific in what you want, and use specific words. Empower yourself, and become the person you dream about. Listen closely: the only time it’s too late to change yourself is when you’re dead. Until then, you’re simply making excuses or lying to yourself.” -Unknown, From Erospainter.tumblr.com

“Don’t ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive, and go do that, because what the world needs is people how have come alive.” – Gil Bailie as quoted by John Eldredge in “Wild at Heart,” p. 200.

“What would you do right now if you knew that everything today would 
turn out perfectly? What project would you start, what person would 
you talk to, what problem would you tackle if you could be assured of
success? Is there anything you’re putting off because you’re afraid of 
failure? Is there anyone you’re avoiding because you’re afraid of 
what they would say or think? There is no guarantee of success. But there is a guarantee that if you never go for it, you’ll never have it. And even in the failed attempts, you’ll learn and grow. There is no guarantee that other people will think highly of all you say and do. But that’s their problem. Do you believe in the worth of your own pursuits? If so, then what could possibly prevent you from following them? If you’re looking for a sure thing, then here’s one — everything you achieve will come only from the things you attempt. In order to succeed, you must proceed. Today is a great day to start.” -Unknown, From Erospainter.tumblr.com

“Everything you can imagine is real.” Pablo Picasso

 “This is our purpose: to make as meaningful as possible this life that has been bestowed upon us … to live in such a way that we may be proud of ourselves, to act in such a way that some part of us lives on.” 
? Oswald Spengler 

8. Social Freedom: Who cares what others think about you? 

Not afraid to be a little different, to stand out

Not afraid to be a little different and stand out

“I remember how frightened I was to say to an intimate friend of mine, ‘I don’t really need you. I can be perfectly happy without you. And by telling you this I find I can enjoy your company thoroughly–no more anxieties, no more jealousies, no more possessiveness, no more clinging. It is a delight to be with you when I am enjoying you on a non-clinging basis. You’re free; so am I.’ ” – Anthony DeMello, Jesuit Priest from “Detachment” in his book “Awareness”

“Having a lot of money has nothing to do with being a success in life. You’re a success in life when you wake up! Then you don’t have to apologize to anyone, you don’t have to explain anything to anyone, you don’t give a damn what anybody thinks about you or what anybody says about you. You have no worries; you’re happy. That’s what I call being a success..” – Anthony DeMello, “Obstacles to Happiness” in Awareness

“Letting go is the lesson. Letting go is always the lesson. Have you ever noticed how much of our agony is all tied up with craving and loss?” ? Susan Gordon Lydon, “The Knitting Sutra: Craft as a Spiritual Practice”

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?” Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” – Marianne Williamson, “A Return To Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles”

“Why are trying so hard to fit in, when you’re born to stand out” -Unknown, From Erospainter.tumblr.com

“Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds. The mediocre mind is incapable of understanding the man who refuses to bow blindly to conventional prejudices and chooses instead to express his opinions courageously and honestly.” –Albert Einstein, in a letter to a professor emeritus of philosophy at the College of the City of New York, defending the appointment of Bertrand Russell to a teaching position

“They will say you are on the wrong road, if it is your own.” –Antonio Porchia

9. Empathy

Dale Carnegie, author of the classic: "How To Win Friends and Influence People."

Dale Carnegie, author of the classic: “How To Win Friends and Influence People.”

If there is any one secret to success, it lies in the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angle as well as from your own.” – Henry Ford

“We are interested in others when they are interested in us.”– Publilis Syrus, Roman Poet

“The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature.” – John Dewey

“The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.” – William James

“Appreciation is a wonderful thing: It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well.”  ~Voltaire

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” ? Maya Angelou

“ Inside the heart of each and every one of us there is a longing to be understood by someone who really cares. When a person is understood, he or she can put up with almost anything in the world.” – Unknown, from Erospainter.tumblr.com

“Always make the other person feel important…All of us want to feel important. We don’t want empty flattery, but we do want recognition of our worth…So let’s obey the Golden Rule, and give unto others what we would have others give unto us…How? When? Where? The answer is: All the time, everywhere.” – Dale Carnegie, “How to Win Friends” page 100-101.

“Your highest self only wants you to be at peace. It does not judge, compare or demand that you defeat anyone, or be better than anyone. It only wants you to be at peace. Whenever you are about to act, ask yourself this question: “Is what I am about to say or do going to bring me peace?” If the answer is yes, then go with it and you will be allowing yourself the wisdom of your highest self. If the answer is no, then remind yourself that it is your ego at work.

“The ego promotes turmoil because it wants to substantiate your separateness from everyone, including God. It will push you in the direction of judgment and comparison, and cause you to insist on being right and best. You know your highest self by listening to the voice that only wants you to be at peace.” – Wayne Dyer, “Manifest Your Destiny,” p. 21. 

“People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.?If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway. ?If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway.? If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway.? The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.?Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway. ?For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.” ?? Kent M. Keith

“You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is like an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty.” 
? Mahatma Gandhi

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.” 
? Martin Luther King, Jr., “A Testament of Hope: The Essential Writings and Speeches

“It is easy to kill someone with a slash of a sword. It is hard to be impossible for others to cut down” – Yagyu Munenori

“Master the divine techniques of the Art of Peace and no enemy will dare to challenge you.” – Ueshiba

“Nothing is so strong as gentleness. Nothing is so gentle as real strength.” – Frances de Sales

“Victory goes to the one who has no thought of himself.”– Shinkage School of Swordsmanship

“Youth ends when egotism does; maturity begins when one lives for others.” ? Herman Hesse, “Gertrude”


Master Yoda showing how Outer-game is based on a strong Inner-game

Master Yoda showing how Outer-game is based on a strong Inner-game

1O. Qualify

Be the selector. Qualify her.

Be the selector. Be choosy. Qualify her.

“Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind.” – William Shakespeare, “A Midsummer Night’s Dream

“Tell me what a man finds sexually attractive and I will tell you his entire philosophy of life. Show me the woman he sleeps with and I will tell you his valuation of himself….. The man who is proudly certain of his own value, will want the highest type of woman he can find, the woman he admires, the strongest, the hardest to conquer—because only the possession of a heroine will give him the sense of an achievement, not the possession of a brainless slut.” – Ayn Rand, “Atlas Shrugged”

“Some (women) look fierce, but are mild. Some seem timid, but are vicious. Look beyond appearances; position yourself for the advantage.” – Deng Ming-Dao

11. Philosophers on Seduction

Jean Baudrillard, 1929 - 2007. French philosopher and author of "Seduction."

Jean Baudrillard, 1929 – 2007. French philosopher and author of “Seduction.”

Challenge, and not desire, lies at the heart of seduction.” – Jean Baudrillard

“Whenever I call upon a woman I never fail to take with me a little whip.” ~ Nietzsche

And because she’s served with all the attentions due to a god by a lover who is not pretending otherwise but is truly in the throes of love, and because she’s disposed to be a friend of the man who’s serving her (even if she… initially rejects the lover)… she lets the man spend time with her. It is a decree of fate, you see, that bad is never friends with bad, while good cannot fail to be friends with good.

Now that she allows her lover to talk and spend time with her, and the man’s good will is close at hand, the girl is amazed by it as she realizes that all the friendship she has… is nothing compared to that of this friend who’s inspired by a god. After the lover has spent some time doing this, staying near the girl (even touching her… on occasions), then the spring… named ‘Desire’… begins to flow mightily in the lover and is partly absorbed by her, and when she is filled, it overflows and runs away outside her.

Think how a breeze or an echo bounces back from a smooth solid object to its source; that is how the stream of beauty goes back to the beautiful girl and sets her aflutter. It enters through her eyes, which are its natural route to the soul; there it waters the passages for the wings, starts the wings growing, and fills the soul of the loved one with love in return.

Then the girl is in love, but has no idea what she loves. She does not understand, and cannot explain, what has happened to her. It is as if she had caught an eye disease from someone else, but could not identify the cause; she does not realize that she is seeing herself in the lover as in a mirror.

So when the lover is near, the girl’s pain is relieved just as the lover’s is, and when they are apart she yearns as much as she is yearned for, because she has a mirror image of love in him–‘back love’– though she neither speaks nor thinks of it as love, but as friendship.

Still, her desire is nearly the same as her lover’s, though weaker: he wants to see, touch, kiss, and lie down with her; and of course, as you might expect, she acts on these desires soon after they occur.. Meanwhile… swelling with desire, confused, she hugs her lover and kisses him in delight at his great good will. And whenever they are lying together she’s completely unable, for her own part, to deny the lover any favor he might beg to have…

Now if victory goes to the better elements in both their minds… their life here below is one of bliss and shared understanding.”  – Plato, “Phaedrus,” 255a – 256a

“For among animals the principle is the same as with us, and mortal nature seeks so far as possible to live forever and be immortal. And this is possible in one way only: reproduction, because it always leaves behind a new young one in place of the old. …it is for the sake of immortality that everything shows this zeal, which is Love. Look, if you will, how human beings seek honor… wanting to be famous and ‘to lay glory immortal forever.’ I believe that anyone will do anything for the sake of immortal virtue and the glorious fame that follows; and the better the people, the more they will do, for they are all in love with immortality.”  — Plato, “Symposium” 207d – 208e  Everyone wants to feel important. She has that same vulnerable human need just like you.

12. From The Seduction Community

Two of the biggest figures in the seduction community: Neil Strauss ("Style") and Erik Von Markovik ("Mystery")

Two of the biggest figures in the seduction community: Neil Strauss (“Style”) and Erik Von Markovik (“Mystery”)

“…women have a ‘shadow’ or dark side. This dark side is secretly wanting a man that is in control of himself, his reality, and them. But they’d never admit it – often not even to themselves.” – David DeAngelo, “Double Your Dating,” p. 13

“Females select males most of the time in nature… Sooooooo… when talking to women… point out that you are the selector and not the selectee… It points out something to the woman that she’s most likely NEVER HEARD FROM A MAN IN HER ENTIRE LIFE.” – David DeAngelo, p. 10 – 11, “Double Your Dating”

“(Helitzer) said (in “Comedy Writing Secrets”) that most of being funny is the CHARACTER and not the jokes. The lines didn’t much matter, as long as they fit in with the character. Now that I have created this CHARACTER for myself, things are all different. Women now call me. They pursue me. They want to be around me. It’s strange and magical and weird.” – David DeAngelo, p. 52, “Double Your Dating”

“3 things girls look for most in a man: a great smile, to be made to laugh, to feel a connection.” 

~ Mystery, from a Fall 1998 post, extracted from: “Mystery’s Field Reports from 1998-2006,” bonus ebook with “Revelations.” The Reports were written before Mystery invented The Mystery Method while he was learning about women. In this quote, he was still figuring out how to be successful with women. During a game called “Hot Seat” with some girls at a party, they said this to him. It gave him an “aha” moment.

“SIX CHARACTERISTICS OF AN ALPHA MALE: (Parentheses indicate my own comments.) 

1. The number one characteristic of an alpha male is the smile. Smile when you enter a room. As soon as you walk in a club, the game is on. And by smiling, you look like you’re together, you’re fun, and you’re somebody.  

2. Be well-groomed. Have your fashion together: wear at least one interesting item of clothing. If you look average, you’re going to get average girls. Alpha males don’t blend in, they stand out. (Shower. Soap yourself at least three times to smell really clean. Brush your teeth. Make sure your breath smells good. Carry gum if you have to. Put on a great smelling deodorant. If you’re going to put on cologne, make sure it’s just a DAB. At the very least, dress the best you can.)

3. “Possess a sense of humor.” (Negs are a great way to make women laugh.) 

4. “Connect with people.” (Don’t do all the talking. Listen. Put yourself in their shoes. Also, at bottom, every person wants to feel important. Don’t knock people down. Make people feel important.) 

5. “Be the social center of a room. There are the observers and the observed. Be the observed.” The three second rule isn’t just opening the first attractive women you see. It means opening the first people you see period. (Talk to everyone, even if it’s a simple “How’s your night going?” Bartenders, Bouncers, ugly girls, guys. Be the social center of a room.) 

6. “Confidence.” Speaking slowly and enthusiastically is a sign of confidence. (Confidence comes from competence. You’re the prize. You’re the selector. Not her. If you don’t know this about yourself yet,) Fake it till you make. (Dwell on your positive attributes and your accomplishments not your drawbacks and failures. Keep telling yourself you’re the catch and she’s lucky talking with you. That belief translates into confidence. And women will smell it off you like cologne.) -Mystery, From “The Game,” by Neil Strauss, p. 21-22.


1. Smile when you walk into a room. See the group with the target and follow the three-second rule. Do not hesitate–approach instantly. 

2. Recite a memorized opener, if not two or three in a row. 

3. The opener should open the group, not just the target. When talking, ignore the target for the most part. If there are men in the group, focus your attention on the men. 

4. Neg the target with one of the slew of negs we’ve come up with. Tell her, “It’s so cute. Your nose wiggles when you laugh.” Then get her friends to notice and laugh about it. 

5. Convey personality to the entire group. Do this by using stories, magic, anecdotes, and humor. Pay particular attention to the men and the less attractive women. During this time, the target will notice that you are the center of attention. You may perform various memorized pieces like the photo routine, but only for the obstacles. 

6. Neg the target, if appropriate. If she wants to look at the pictures, for example, say “Oh my god, she’s so grabby. How do you roll with her?” 

7. Ask the group, “So, how does everyone know each other?” If the target is with one of the guys, find out how long they’ve been together. 

8a. If it’s a serious relationship, eject politely by saying, “Pleasure meeting you.” 

8b. If she is not spoken for, say to the group, “I’ve sort of been alienating your friend. Is it all right if I speak to her for a couple of minutes?” They always say, “Uh, sure. If it’s okay with her.” If you’ve executed the preceding steps correctly, she will agree. 

9. Isolate her from the group by telling her you want to show her something cool. Take her to sit with you nearby. As you lead her through the crowd, do a kino test by holding her hand. If she squeezes back, it’s on. Start looking for other IOIs. 

10. Sit with her and perform a rune reading, an ESP test, or any other demonstration that will fascinate and intrigue her. 

11. Tell her, “Beauty is common but what’s rare is a great energy and outlook on life. Tell me, what do you have inside that would make me want to know you as more than a mere face in the crowd?” If she begins to list qualities, this is a positive IOI. 

12. Stop talking. Does she reinitiate the chat with a question that begins with the word “So?” If she does, then you’ve now seen three IOIs and can… 

13. Kiss close. Say, out of the blue, “Would you like to kiss me?” If the setting or circumstances aren’t conducive to physical intimacy, then give yourself a time constraint by saying, “I have to go, but we should continue this.” Then get her number and leave.” – Mystery, From “The Game,” by Neil Strauss, p. 35

“I needed to let her know that unlike every other guy in the bar, I am not and will not be intimidated by her looks. Beauty to me was now a shit test: It weeded out the losers who got dumbstruck by it.” – Neil Strauss, p. 152, “The Game”

“The key to attraction is banter. What is banter? It’s playful dominance. Banter is play fighting.” ~Lance Mason

“If you cut through the B.S. exterior of a pretty woman’s faux social persona, she’s just an average girl… There’s inherently nothing different between an average looking girl and a really beautiful one. Deep down they are still a woman and need loving.”  ~ Rion Williams, p.227 “Men’s Guide to Women”

“First, she needs to feel appreciated for the unique individual that she is. She needs to feel special, unlike any other woman, and she needs to know that her man supports her in her endeavors. 

Second, she needs to feel that deep, intimate emotional connection. She needs to have that emotional intimacy with her man. It’s a connection she shares only with him. 

Third, she needs to feel like a woman. She needs to feel beautiful, sexy, and feminine. She needs to enjoy all those things that come with being a woman. 

Finally, she needs hot, passionate sex. She needs to be seduced, enticed, teased, and satisfied, over and over again. She needs to experience new things, in new ways, including fantasies and roles. It makes her feel desired, affirmed, and alive.” – David Shade, “The Secrets of Female Sexuality,” p. 51.

13. On Seduction and Sex

Sex... oh yeah

Sex… oh yeah

“If a thing is worth doing, it is worth doing slowly … very slowly.” – Unknown, From Erospainter.tumblr.com

The best sex takes place in the mind first” – Jenna Jameson, How to Make Love Like a Porn Star: A Cautionary Tale

“Have you ever heard of the expression, ladies first” “Yes” “Well, it’s truer in bed than it is anywhere else.” – Sherrilyn Kenyon, Born of Fire

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Credit: getleanstaykeen.tumblr.com

“However, they’ve never really had the effect on her of knowing what a nice slow tease can do. She started paying much more attention to the scenes before the actions, as she got older, because the flirting did so much more for her than the actual activity. She fantasized about his shirt coming off, or the brushing of the hair of another girl. Maybe her hand running along the side another woman. Or as she felt up her lover laying next to her as he feels her up through her slip. It was something she needed for herself to experience. Sex was all good, but in the end, it’s the tease. Sex the dessert to end a great meal. Without the appetizer of the flirting and that main course of seduction, she starved for much more than she actually got.” – From Erospainter.tumblr.com, uncited source

“From her “do as you are told” Journal: As we walking through the parking lot of the restaurant you whisper in my ear, “Little One I want your panties right now.” I feel my pulse beginning to increase at the thought. I look around as I begin to slide my underwear down my legs. I wonder if anyone is watching me. The thought brings on a rush of wetness between my legs. As I straighten my dress, you take my arm pulling me close. You tell me, “Good girl, now make sure you keep those legs open for me during dinner,” I know it is going to be a very interest meal.” – From Erospainter.tumblr.com

14. On Women

Women... yum.

Women… yum.

You have wished to give her good manners, as if a young girl’s happiness were not inseparable from debauchery and immorality” – Marquis de Sade (1740-1814), French author. Dolmancé, in “Dialogue the Seventh,” Philosophy in the Bedroom (1795). Real name: Comte Donatien-Alphonse-François.

“I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don’t mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh, God, as a woman I want to be dominated. I don’t mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling, be all that I am capable of doing, but I am going to be pursued, fucked, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding.”  – Anais Nin, unknown source, From Erospainter.tumblr.com

“Man can never know the loneliness a woman knows. Man lies in the woman’s womb only to gather strength, he nourishes himself from this fusion, and then he rises and goes into the world, into his work, into battle, into art. He is not lonely. He is busy. The memory of the swim in amniotic fluid gives him energy, completion. Woman may be busy too, but she feels empty. Sensuality for her is not only a wave of pleasure in which she is bathed, and a charge of electric joy at contact with another. When man lies in her womb, she is fulfilled, each act of love a taking of man within her, an act of birth and rebirth, of child rearing and man bearing. Man lies in her womb and is reborn each time anew with a desire to act, to be. But for woman, the climax is not in the birth, but in the moment man rests inside of her.” 
? Anais Nin, “The Diary of Anais Nin, Vol. 1: 1931-1934, From Erospainter.tumblr.com 

“Women love passion, and they love being around dominant men who are passionate. My Master is a passionate dominant. He makes loving me fun. As my Dominant he is adventurous and highly sensual. That’s why I and so many other women are attracted to him. The D/ is passionate about what they are… and about what they possess; it is a passion so strong; reaching beyond the realms of the meta-physical; they are sexually stimulating both mentally and physically past the point of physical arousal; processing the power of mental sexual arousal. The Master’s power exists in that of the heart and mind. With his power, he controls the art of deep rapport, the power of attraction and is an expert at seduction; removing inhibition and sexual resistance effortlessly without objection. The Master is her greatest lover; sexually stimulating her mentally and physically during sex. The Master discovers positions to make her cum fast. He takes advantage of sensual pillow talk, he maneuvers his hands, tells her how to go down on him; each proven to makes her cum over and over again during sex. When the dominant’s strategy is executed properly she will orgasm at any time. He makes domination not about achieving his end pleasure results; domination is, and has to be defined; it is about the strategy, execution and delivery of her; accomplishing the task of the art of sensual seduction and completing the benevolent female pleasure of orgasm. When he is not present with her the Dominate will escalate her mentally; instantly arousing her in a matter of seconds with proper erotic talk to get her soaking wet with his voice and her fingers. Using his power and only his voice he speaks to her arousing her with his kisses, he whispers of her neck line, tells of her breast and the nipple, he commands to her what clothing to remove; her shirt, bra or her panties and she does not resist. Women who are submissive are naturally and gravitate to the one who is the leader or one who can dominate her reality; therefore by having a strong dominate imagery eases her into your reality. Being dominated is also a huge turn on to women. Dominant’s who are strong in their convictions about sexuality encourage the release of sexual energy deepfrom within; preventing her from being inside her head. His conviction allows her to be focused on the positive feelings and emotions he has created; a passion invoking emotion. The Master or dominant maintains a character that is the same for all people who are passionate in that they desire and live in their moments and desire others to follow their hearts. Each of us live to have exciting lives with fun and plenty of adventure. The attractive traits of my Master align with my identity and who I am. I am a mirror to him. He explores my traits that are of value to him creating the control to be a part of my reality. Thus our passions are synchronized creating the human elements of nitrogen and oxygen to formulate the chemistry of love and passions of our heart.” – From Erospainter.tumblr.com

“When a woman submits to a man, it’s the most precious gift she can give. Herself. Unreservedly. The man has to respect and honor that gift above all else. Even if he respects nothing else in the world, he must respect the woman in his care. It’s his sworn duty to protect, honor and cherish his submissive. To take care of her and provide a safe haven. Someone who would put his own needs above his woman’s is no man.”
? Maya Banks, “Sweet Addiction” From Erospainter.tumblr.com 

“I am a submissive woman. I am proud to call myself that. My submission is a gift that I do not give lightly, and can only be given to one who can appreciate that gift and return it tenfold. Only to he who has that strength will I give myself fully, because I am strong and proud. I am a submissive woman.” – From Erospainter.tumblr.com

“I just want to say one thing. If I ever write a novel again, it’s going to be in defense of weak women, inept and codependent women. I’m going to talk about all the great movies and songs and poetry that focus on such women. I’m going to toast Blanche DuBois. I’m going to celebrate women who aren’t afraid to show their need and their vulnerabilities. To be honest about how hard it can be to plow your way through a life that offers no guarantees about anything. I’m going to get on my metaphorical knees and thank women who fall apart, who cry and carry on and wail and wring their hands because you know what, Midge? We all need to cry. Thank God for women who can articulate their vulnerabilities and express what probably a lot of other people want to say and feel they can’t. Those peoples’ stronghold against falling apart themselves is the disdain they feel for women who do it for them. Strong. I’m starting to think that’s as much a party line as anything else ever handed to women for their assigned roles. When do we get respect for our differences from men? Our strength is our weakness. Our ability to feel is our humanity. You know what? I’ll bet if you talk to a hundred strong women, 99 of them would say ‘I’m sick of being strong. I would like to be cared for. I would like someone else to make the goddamn decisions, I’m sick of making decisions.’ I know this one woman who’s a beacon of strength. A single mother who can do everything – even more than you, Midge. I ran into her not long ago and we went and got a coffee and you know what she told me? She told me that when she goes out to dinner with her guy, she asks him to order everything for her. Every single thing, drink to dessert. Because she just wants to unhitch. All of us dependent, weak women have the courage to do all the time what she can only do in a restaurant.”
? Elizabeth Berg, “Home Safe,” From Erospainter.tumblr.com 

“It’s very difficult being a woman. It’s very difficult being a man too, I realize, but this is a book about women. Sam Keen wrote a book about men, which he called Fire in the Belly. My friend Tara called me up one day and told me she wanted to write a companion volume, Volcano in the Uterus. I laughed when she said that, but inside I was thinking and Catastrophes in the Breasts and Terror in the Ovaries … More women cry, loudly or silently, every fraction of every moment, in every town of every country, than anyone—man or woman—realizes. We cry for our children, our lovers, our parents, and ourselves. We cry in shame because we feel no right to cry, and we cry in peace because we feel it’s time we did cry. We cry for the world. Yet we think we cry alone. We feel that no one hears, that there is no listening that matters. And we must all listen now. We must hold the crying woman’s hand and minister to her tenderly, or she will turn—this collective feminine shadow self—into a monster who will go unheard no longer. This book is an effort to hear and understand her in today’s world, as she exists at this moment, imprisoned while still dressed in all her ancient, soiled regalia. She is like a child yet she is not a child. She is our mother, our daughter, our sister, our lover. She needs us now, and we need her. Womanhood today is tentative and unsure, a thing defined more by what it isn’t than by what it is. For some women, this is not a problem. They have risen above the complexities of society’s projections and misunderstandings and now fly high above the clouds. For most women, however, the resistances they encountered as they reached for the sky were so great that their wings have now drooped, and they try no longer.” – From Erospainter.tumblr.com, uncited source 

“Usually, when we think of power, we think of external power. And we think of powerful people as those who have made it in the world. A powerful woman isn’t necessarily someone who has money, but we think of her as someone with a boldness or a spark that makes her manifest in a dramatic way. When we think of a powerful man, we think of his ability to manifest abundance, usually money, in the world.Most people say that a powerful woman does best with a powerful man, that she needs someone who understands the bigness of her situation, a man who can meet her at the same or even greater level of power in the world. Now this is true, if power is defined as material abundance. A woman often faces cultural prejudice when she makes more money than a man, as does he. A woman who defines power by worldly standards can rarely feel totally relaxed in the arms of a man who doesn’t have it. If power is seen as an internal matter, then the situation changes drastically. Internal power has less to do with money and worldly position, and more to do than with emotional expansiveness, spirituality and conscious living… I used to think I needed a powerful man, someone who could protect me from the harshness and evils of the world. What I have come to realize is that…the powerful man I was looking for would be foremost, someone who supported me in keeping myself on track spiritually, and in so maintaining clarity within myself, that life would present fewer problems. When it did get rough, he would help me forgive. 
I no longer wanted somebody who would say to me, “Don’t worry honey, if they’re mean to you I’ll beat them up or buy them out.” Instead, I want someone who prays and meditates with me regularly so that fewer monsters from the outer world disturb me, and who when they do, helps me look within my own consciousness for answers, instead of looking to false power to combat false power.There’s a big difference between a gentle man and a weak man. Weak men make us nervous. Gentle men make us calm.” 
? Marianne Williamson, From Erospainter.tumblr.com

15. Relationship Maintenance

Relationship maintenance: keeping the spark alive

Relationship maintenance: keeping the spark alive

“Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.

But let there be spaces in your togetherness, 

And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. 

Love one another, but make not a bond of love:

Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. 

Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup. 

Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. 

Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, 

Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. 

Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping. 

For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.

And stand together yet not too near together:

For the pillar of the temple stand apart,

And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadows.” – Kahlil Gibran, “On Marriage” from “The Prophet”

“Two people in love don’t make a hive mind. Neither should they want to be a hive mind, to think the same, to know the same. It’s about being separate and still loving each other, being distinct from each other. One is the violin string, one is the bow.” –Graham Joyce, “The Silent Land”

“Intimacy is based on shared vulnerability…nothing deepens intimacy like the experiences that we share when we feel flayed, with our skins off, scared and vulnerable, and our partner is there with us, willing to share in the scary stuff.” From Erospainter.tumblr.com, uncited source

“Two people in love don’t make a hive mind. Neither should they want to be a hive mind, to think the same, to know the same. It’s about being separate and still loving each other, being distinct from each other. One is the violin string, one is the bow.” –Graham Joyce, The Silent Land, From Erospainter.tumblr.com

“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave. A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master…”  ? Elizabeth Gilbert, “Eat, Pray, Love” From Erospainter.tumblr.com  


Yin-yang. A symbol associated with martial arts meaning balance.

Yin-yang. A symbol meaning balance. It’s been linked with the martial arts.

16. Martial Arts Quotes Relevant to Venusian Arts

“In the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities, but in the expert’s mind there are few” – Suzuki

“To practice Zen or the martial arts (& the Venusian Arts), you must live intensely, wholeheartedly, without reserve – as if you might die in the next instant” – Taisen Deshimaru

“Teachers open the door, but you must enter by yourself” – Chinese Proverb

“When the student is ready, the Master appears.” – Buddhist Proverb

“Ultimately, you must forget about technique. The further you progress, the fewer teachings there are. The Great Path is really NO PATH.” – Ueshiba Morihei

“When you aim for perfection, you discover it’s a moving target.” – Unknown

“SHUCHU RYOKU – Focus all your energy to one point.” – Shioda Gozo

“Now the reason the enlightened prince and the wise general (seduces his target) whenever they move and their achievements surpass those of ordinary men is foreknowledge.” – Sun Tzu

“If ignorant both of your ( target) and yourself, you are certain to be in peril.” – Sun Tzu

“Hence (to conquer women) in all your (approaches) is not supreme excellence; supreme excellence consists in (attracting your target) without (trying, without thinking of her as an opponent).” – Sun Tzu


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