Hey, it’s Renaissan. I just wanted to take a sec and introduce myself.

I’m a junior coach for Venusian Arts. I absolutely love women. Their beauty is like sunshine. It inspires.

Even though I love women, I didn’t always know how to relate to them in the best way. Their beauty would put such a spell on me, I wouldn’t know what to say or do when I came across one. I resigned to just admiring women in magazine pictures or Playboy videos. Not exactly super-proud of that admission.

When I did come across a beautiful woman in real life who showed interest in me, I did all the typical things us guys do, which we’ve probably learned from movies and TV, like spend money on them or tell them how beautiful they are. Or I might say nothing and just stare and admire them from afar, too petrified to say anything at all.

And in my long-term relationships with women, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve gotten my heart broken. Over and over and over again.

It was like a cruel joke. The thing I loved so much was completely out of reach.

The book “The Game” by Neil Strauss opened my eyes though. That book showed me a guy, any guy, could actually learn how to become better with women.

The story goes like this. In the early days of the internet, there was this underground community of pickup artists who would share secret pearls of wisdom about how to be more successful with women anonymously on the internet.

Neil’s book exposed this community. As a writer for the likes of Rolling Stone and even the New York Times, he was asked by an editor to do a piece on this community. But because he had always been unsuccessful with women himself, I think he soon became more interested in learning the pearls of wisdom for himself. Gradually learning the wisdom and more importantly practicing it consistently transformed him from this short, skinny, balding guy who couldn’t get a date to a man who was often voted the #1 Pickup Artist in the world.

Unbelievable. Damn inspiring story.

When I discovered this, I devoured the collected wisdom of this community like I hadn’t eaten for weeks. But what changed my game the most wasn’t the ridiculous amount of reading there is on the internet about this stuff. It was joining the coaching program at Venusian Arts.

The Venusian Arts was started by Neil Strauss’s mentor, the man who took Neil under his wing and transformed him into a legendary pickup artist. His stage name was “Mystery,” and he is one of the greatest legends in the community, a pioneer who discovered some of its most important insights. He’s also often dubbed the world’s greatest pickup artist, too. In fact, he even had his own TV show on VH1 called “The Pickup Artist.” Haha

To be certified as a coach for Mystery’s company, a coach-in-training would eventually have to demonstrate his pickup skills in the hottest clubs in Las Vegas with the most beautiful women in front of Mystery.

Intimidating? Check. I was so intimidated, in fact, that I spent the next 8 or so months going out at least 4 times a week practicing pickup. And God it was painful. But it changed my life. Being in the heat of the “fire” of cold approach, and persistently, changed me. It would change anyone.

Towards the end of that eight months I was having crazy adventures, like foursomes, threesomes, same night lays, dating five women at once. Things I never even dreamed that were possible. Dealing with women gradually became less mystifying. I had simply been in my own way.

The best part was, women became not the #1 priority in my life anymore. My deepest passions, such as writing, became my #1 priority again. Women came second.

Now, I want to share everything I’ve learned and that I continue to learn in this blog. I’ll always be a student just as women will forever be a delicious mystery. I’m also writing a small book about everything I’ve learned, too.

I want to share this incredible wisdom with as many guys as I can for two reasons.

First, there’s a lot of stuff out there about being successful with women, but a lot of it is now very expensive and not completely clear. For the guy who’s just starting out and is not a millionaire, I want to give something that isn’t high-priced and that will clarify rather than confuse.

Second, sharing is a great way to keep learning myself. Putting thoughts into words, forces a person to get clear on his thoughts. And I want to keep learning and growing forever.

I’m passionate about this wisdom because in the end, it seems becoming more successful with women isn’t about “getting” women at all. It’s about what Socrates spoke about 2400 years ago: “know thyself.” Learning how to be more attractive to women is just a means to that end.

By the way, the reason I’m called Renaissan is not because I’m a Renaissance Man. It’s because my objective on this journey is a perpetual “rebirth.” Also, the Renaissance Man is an ideal that I’ll always strive towards: warrior, artist, scholar, gentleman, citizen, self-reliance-wright, Christian, admirer of the ancient Greeks. What an ideal. It inspires the hell out of me.

I’ll post to this blog at least once week.

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  1. Nick

    Hey man! I’ve been taking a look at your blog recently. Impressive! Very nice work.
    But I need an advice and it’s kind of urgent. Can I ask about it in private?

    1. renaissan

      Thank-you for the kinds words! Can’t tell you how much it means. By the way, which stuff have you read? If you have any questions, please let me know. Would love to answer them. Thanks again for the comment.

  2. Derek

    hey man, I have this doubt, well you said that there must be a good eye contact right? So when having this eye contact where should I be actually looking at? I mean, should I be swapping between her left and right eyes? Or should I focus on just one eye? Or should I set my eyes at the bridge of her nose(like between her eyes)?

    1. renaissan

      Swapping between her eyes might make your eyes dart. So I wouldn’t recommend that. Instead, I’d recommend relaxing your gaze. Take the attention off of yourself and put the attention on her. It’s funny, we naturally scan both eyes, so you don’t really have to think about it too much.

      You brought up an interesting question about the right eye vs. left eye. Good question. Most of us tend to naturally focus on a person’s right eye. But if you look into a person’s left eye, they say you’ll be looking at a person’s true self.

      The reason being, the left eye is linked with the right side of the brain, which is the more emotional, intuitive side. The right eye is linked with the left side of the brain, which is the more verbal, logical side.

      Again, you don’t have to worry too much about which eye to look into. Just hold your gaze for a bit longer than what’s socially comfortable. At that point you’ll know you’ve made strong eye contact.

      Here’s how you know if you’re overdoing it. Normal eye contact involves looking at a person’s eyes 30 percent of the time, and 70 percent in a person’s general direction. A general rule to follow might be to sustain eye contact with her 30-40 percent of the time.

      Now, if you look into her eyes for longer than 30-40 percent of the time, that can come in handy. It can trigger attraction, and even seduction. In fact, when I get ready to kiss a girl for the first time, I hold my gaze into her eyes for 70 percent of the time.

      The downside is, holding a gaze for 70 percent of the time can also trigger aggression. But that’s if you’re holding aggressive-type thoughts during the gaze.

      What if you feel uncomfortable making eye contact for this long period of time? Try looking at her forehead, since it’s the closest to her eyes.

      You ask a great question because eye contact is so important when attracting a woman. Strong eye contact will make her feel you’re attentive and listening. You’ll also project confidence and honesty.

      So, here’s what to remember. While you’re looking at her, relax. And hold the right thought in your head. If you’re feeling tense and thinking “me, me, me” the whole time that will come across in your eyes.

      But if you relax and lose yourself in what she’s saying, you won’t even have to think about your eye contact. You’ll forget about your “performance” (where the attention is on you) and focus solely on her (where your attention is on her).

      Does this help at all?

  3. Eddie Goynes Jr

    We’ve already have plans to see Mystery this year. Glad I found you blog today! Just awesome. I have 90% of the Venusian library already cramming and immersing. Your blog shortens my learning curve even more. Tremendous! Cheers Mate! =D

  4. Paul

    Hello Renaissan, greetings from Germany.

    Though I only have read here and there on your blog I want to ask you for a favor.
    Up until now, I see one basic: communication. My dilemma: I am hard hearing. Though I have a Cochlear Implant it is always difficult for me to talk to everyone in a loud surrounding (i.e. disco, restaurant, bar etc.). Additionally I have always a slight underdevelopment of the language because of lesser auditive input. Hence my fear that the others may think they have to do with a kind of a retard. Even if I out myself as hard hearing I doubt that most can link the cause of weak hearing to underdevelopped speech.
    Did you, maybe, stumbled in your research upon a topic (book or any similar) about disability? I would be interested how I could talk without disrupting the flow by “Sorry, I didn’t understood you. Please, reapeat.” or “No, I just didn’t understood you acustically. Say again.” Especially a joke doesn’t have the same impact than on first time.
    I hope you can somehow relate to me?

    1. renaissan

      Hey Paul,

      Thanks for writing in. Pretty cool you hail from Germany.

      You ask me a great question. I’m unsure what the answer is. Here are some thoughts, though:

      – No one can hear each other in a loud environment anyway. You might be able to get away with “Can’t hear you” in a loud environment. You’d have to rely on visual and physical communication here: facial expressions, body language, kino, lean in each other’s ear to speak… these might work to your advantage.

      – Let’s say you’re in a quieter environment… I’m a strong believer in the “honesty is the best policy” adage. So, be upfront with your hearing. Personality can overcome a lot. I knew a guy once who was completely deaf, but he still enjoyed laughing and cracking jokes. His personality still attracted girls to him.

      – It doesn’t matter if you use a hearing aid. If girls can’t handle it, that’s their own issue. Wear your hearing aids proudly. If it’s not an issue with you, I doubt it’ll be an issue with any girls.

      – Have you checked out Sean Stephenson yet? He talks about overcoming a serious disability he had in his dating life. Here’s his website: David DeAngelo’s ebook Double Your Dating ( is also a great resource for attracting women through personality.

      You can still make it work. Let me know what you think. Would love to hear your response.

  5. Jose

    Hello Renaissan
    Thanks for your blog and your book. Both are awesome. I have a question regarding the first plan and is: At what number do you recommend that we should aim for the smiles, hellos and small talk. I mean maybe we should take the walk and at least 5 days smiling at girls X number of times per day before starting to say hello in the next days. And so on with the chat. What’s your recommendation with this??
    Thank you very much

    1. renaissan

      Hey Jose,

      First of all, THANK-YOU so much for the kind words about the blog AND the ebook. I appreciate your reading them a lot. Your comment made my day.

      Second of all, to answer your question about “Plan #1,” it sounds like you’re referring to the blog post “How to Practice Pickup“? If that’s what you’re referring to, here’s the answer.

      In Plan #1 you only have to smile at people you walk past, say “hi” to one person, and extend the conversation past “hi” with one attractive woman on your 15-30 minute walk. The conversation can be as quick and simple as the weather or how lovely her style is or about the Super Bowl (I’m writing this on Super Bowl Sunday). Wish her a “nice meeting you,” then you’re done.

      Here’s the tracker I created for this walk. Hopefully, checking it out might clarify the process even more. And feel free to use it. It helps keep a guy on track.

      Once your complete Plan #1 (15-30 minute walk per day for 30 days), you’re ready for Plan #2. When I first learned pickup, I did Plan #1 myself and it helped me big time in forming the habit of being a friendly person. That habit is a prerequisite for pickup.

      Great question Jose! Please let me know if I answered it adequately. And if you have any other questions whatsoever, please don’t hesitate to ask. I’d love to hear them!

      Good luck out and great job getting out there IMPLEMENTING this stuff.

      Yours truly,

  6. Preston Parrott

    How’s it going Renaissan. First, great blog. Many of your principles are congruent to those of a gentleman named Dante Nero. He hosts a weekly podcast called The Beige Phillip Show. Anyway, I need some advice. I’ve been in a relationship for about 6 months. I’ve cheated multiple times but never got caught. Earlier today I decided to air all my dirty laundry to clear my conscience. Of course my lady didn’t take it well. We’re now apart, and I want her back. How should I proceed?


    1. renaissan

      First of all, thanks for the kind words. It’s words like those that make writing this blog worth it.

      Second of all, I want to congratulate you for being completely honest with your girlfriend. That took a lot of balls, and your honesty shows respect for her.

      Third, as for “how to get her back”: I’m not sure if I have any tips for this one. All I know is this.

      When we’re honest, one of two things happen can happen to the relationship. It either destroys it permanently or it can raze the “dirty” past to the ground so that you can begin the relationship anew. If that happens, often times the relationship’s even stronger.

      Whether your girlfriend decides to go back with you is up to her own free will. You can tell her how you feel, talk with her, ask for a second chance. But it’s a two-way street, so the choice belongs to her. In other words, you can open the door, but she has to walk back in.

      Now, I know this reply is late, so a lot of things may have happened since you last wrote in. I’m curious. Did you end up getting back together with her? Either way, you did the right and honorable thing being honest with her.


    1. renaissan

      Hey Yaw,

      Thanks for wanting to buy my ebook! By the way, I took a little hiatus but I’m back–my apologies that I’m just seeing your message now.

      If you’re still interested, would you be able to download the Venmo app on your phone? (It’s free and super easy/quick to setup.) If you’re not, maybe we could do the transaction over Facebook or Instagram.

      Out of curiosity, what country are you from? HUGE thanks for your question!

  7. Marco

    This is hands down the absolute best website – not even just website; the best internet platform (including youtube channels, blogs etc etc) as a means to communicate ideas – that I’ve come across.
    The work that you must have been putting down to summarize so brilliantly and efficiently the many, many different ideas and concepts of pickup from so many different sources in an unbiased and genuine way is truly fascinating! Your way of writing is also highly appealing. It’s filled with optimism and positivity and hopefulness and all those good feelings, and your great enthusiasm is very palpable and infectious. I get so motivated reading your stuff, I just wanna run out of my house and start improving my skills straight away! At the same time you constantly keep it very real. You point out several times that there is no one magical solution that will instantaneously make you amazing with women and that only high volumes of exposure will get you there – as with all other skills in life. Though, you do have a way to make that dream scenario seem so much nearer and possible.
    Oh and by the way, ALL OF THIS IS FOR FREE?!? I don’t know how much recognition you get, but you certainly deserve a whole lot!
    Your outlook on this weird thing that we call life and how one could choose to live it (constant growth, open mindedness, self-awareness, truth etc etc) is also great and very much in tune with how I imagine an (one of probably many) ideal way of living it out would be. I frequently visit this website, so you should know that you’re at leat helping out and inspiring one person!
    Anyway, I just wanted to let you know how great all this work that you have done is, how grateful I – and presumable many others – am for it, and that you’re a fucking legend.
    Much love from Sweden

    1. renaissan

      You just made my year. This comment is unbelievably encouraging. Thanks so much for taking the time to write this. It means more than you might imagine.

      I was also struck by how insightful your comments were. You saw that I was trying to pull together a lot ideas from different sources into one place.

      After spending months practicing them (and wanting to give up much of the time as practicing doesn’t always go so smoothly) and finally having that aha moment where things were working, I wanted to record all the ideas in one place.

      There’s so much PUA marketing that throws out a bit here and a piece there that I wanted to give a whole picture for whoever needed it without having to get into massive credit card debt. And writing the ideas down afterwards helped me to clarify them for myself, too.

      I also appreciated the way you had even commented on my writing style. David DeAngelo’s Double Your Dating ebook was a big influence. I liked his guy-to-guy, cut-loose, talk-at-a-bar, short-words-and-short-sentences, way of talking. It’s easier to write that way, and way more fun. Thanks for noticing this.

      And it was high praise to hear you say my writing was motivating? Oh my lordy. That’s awesome! As you rightly pointed out, practice is what transforms us. Ideas are there so we’re not going out there blind in the field. To hear you say reading some of this made you want to get out there? Music to my ears. To be honest, you comments are inspiring me!

      Your comment about my outlook on life as one about growth and being open-minded was also astute. To me this observation says a lot about you. It takes someone who has this kind of outlook to see it. You’re right that this is what I was going for. Thank you for noticing something so subtle. It’s another great piece of feedback.

      Finally, you noticed I’ve made all this free. I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. Some have told me it wasn’t the right thing to do because I haven’t profited from it. When I get comments like yours, it makes it completely worth it and reassures me this was the right thing to do.

      I did have an ulterior motive in making all this stuff for free. I have been working on a series of books that goes even deeper into my own takes on how to be more successful with women. I took a hiatus to help bring my dad’s book to publication, but you’re definitely inspiring me to get back into it. By giving this stuff for free, I was hoping to build trust.

      But I appreciate you reminding me how important it is to make this accessible to anyone and everyone who wants to learn this stuff.

      Thanks again, Marco, for this generous note. I’ve actually printed it out. It means a lot. A big heartfelt thank you.

      1. Marco

        So happy you went with the decision to make all of this free, otherwise I wouldn’t have come across it, and boy am I glad I did. And a very wise decision to wanting to build trust in that way. Now your readers are aware not only of your obvious capabilities that will also translate to your books, but also have a better image of who you are as a person and your motives with writing these things. I might be wrong, but you seem to be more motivated by inspiring and helping people out, with money being the added bonus, and that’s really respectable man. At the end of the day, that’s what’s gonna last longer.
        I’ve also seen the way you’ve answered questions asked to you on the blog regarding pick-up, and every time I’ve seen long and thorough responses. And that just proves that you genuinely care about helping your readers. Because you don’t have to do it, and you certainly won’t gain any direct short-term benefits by doing it; still you do it, just to help out – giving back to the world as you were talking about. Rare to come across people who actually do that. Inspiring.
        Cool that your father has written a book – or maybe books – too! Hope both of you succeed greatly with your writings!
        Again, from the heart, I really really love this website, so another thank you for the amazing work. Wish you nothing but the best!

  8. Marco

    Hey, hope everything’s good with you. Any updates on your book series “the mystery of women”? I’ve seen your table of contents and I’m super intrigued, would absolutely love to read them

    1. renaissan

      Hey Marco,

      Thanks for this excellent question! (I think I love the question so much because it’s giving me a needed kick in the pants.)

      It’s funny because I have about 80% of the series done. I had great momentum, but I put the project aside to help bring my dad’s book to publication. I then got sidetracked by a script I wrote that was in the process of coming to fruition. That’s where I still am, but I’m at an endpoint.

      I even began revising book 1 last year, but doing this at the same time as the project wasn’t working too well. So I decided to focus on just the project. Like I said, I’m now at an endpoint. We’ll see if it’s a negative or a positive one (fingers crossed).

      There’s no way I want this series not to see the light of the day. I’ve put way too much work into it. And I really think it has awesome value. So once I get to the end of this current project, I’m super excited to return to the series of books to finally complete it.

      Thank you so much again, Marco, for asking about the series. Hearing there’s still interest in it inspires me. I hope you get as much out of it as I have.

      Now that we’re talking and to give myself as date, I think I’d like to begin releasing the series this fall. I’ll let my email list know when the first ebook is out. I could shoot you an email to let you know too.

      Again, thank you thank you thank you for asking me about this Marco! I appreciate this question big time.

      1. Marco

        That’s so great to hear! I was blown away by the comprehensiveness of the book series. I don’t think there’s any current book out there that covers all those different areas of game in one go, and the way it seems like you’ve organized the different parts of this work is brilliant too. To in addition get to dive a little into the more advanced techniques and ways would also be highly fascinating. Please do let me know when the book series comes out as I absolutely cannot wait to read it.

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