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The word “Slut” is Bullshit

Let’s talk about “Last Minute Resistance” for a sec.

There’s a myth about this.

The myth is you have to deal with a woman’s last minute resistance to having sex with you right before sex.

Of course getting that last minute resistance does happen.

But if you deal with last minute resistance EARLIER in your game, by eliminating the word “slut” from your vocabulary, you won’t have to deal with the resistance so late.

Often times her resistance has to do with not feeling comfortable enough having sex after meeting you so soon.

She doesn’t want to be seen as a “slut.” If she resists, it makes her feel like she’s not being slutty.

She needs to feel like it “just happened”…

you’re not going to judge her…

her friends aren’t going to judge her…

you’re not going to never call her again…

you’re not going to broadcast the news over the internet.

So, make it clear having sex is AWESOME! It DOES NOT EQUAL slut. And take the decision-making process out of her hands. YOU take the lead, so she doesn’t have to take responsibility for it. Make it so that she can tell her friends “it just happened” or “it was his fault.”

Most important, make it clear earlier during your comfort-building conversation you respect women who are adventurous, spontaneous, who love sex. Plant that seed early on and she’ll be less likely to resist sex later on at the last minute.

When you’re NON-JUDGMENTAL, you AVOID last minute resistance, and you make her feel comfortable with sex.

But that’s not the only reason you should eliminate the word “slut” from your vocabulary.

Honest-to-God the whole concept is…

Bullshit.

B-U-L-L-S-H-I-T.

BULLSHIT!

There’s no equivalent word for a man. I mean the word is derogatory. It’s an insult for women. What word is there in our language to insult men for sleeping with lots of women?

What’s that you say?

Male slut? Pimp? Ladies’ Man?

Compliments. All of ’em.

Why? Why is it a compliment for men to sleep with lots of women but it’s wrong for women to have that same freedom?

In logic, when two premises collide like this, it’s called inconsistency. Inconsistency is an invalid argument.

Language is funny. You can actually create a reality out of language.

What do I mean?

Man and woman having sex. Sheer fact. Nothing good, nothing bad about it.

Then you apply the word “slut” to the woman.

All of a sudden, it makes a woman feel uneasy, nervous, guilty… basically like shit… for something that’s…

JUST FUCKING SEX!

A FACT of life… that BOTH the man and woman are doing.

A fact of life that’s creative, pleasurable, brings life into the world, binds people together, loving.

A fact of life that’s GORGEOUS.

Slut = moralistic judgment based on a human construction, not reality.

The word “slut” is bullshit. The sooner you get rid of that thinking, the sooner women will want to fuck your brains out.

Make her feel safe. A no-slut zone does just that.

 

4 responses to “The word “Slut” is Bullshit

  1. Me

    January 28, 2015 at 8:05 pm

    The idea of being a “slut” is bullshit? Interesting assertion coming from a site dedicated to bullshitting girls for sex. You talk about honesty and integrity. You’re just selfish bastards.

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    • renaissan

      January 30, 2015 at 7:22 am

      Out of curiosity, where on my site do I say to bullshit a girl into sex?

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  2. Me

    February 12, 2015 at 6:31 pm

    That’s tough. I’ll probably never find the needle in the–oh, wait; it’s right at the top of this page:

    She needs to feel like it “just happened”…

    you’re not going to judge her…

    her friends aren’t going to judge her…

    you’re not going to never call her again…

    you’re not going to broadcast the news over the internet.

    So, make it clear having sex is AWESOME! It DOES NOT EQUAL slut. And take the decision-making process out of her hands. YOU take the lead, so she doesn’t have to take responsibility for it. Make it so that she can tell her friends “it just happened” or “it was his fault.”

    In other words, manipulate her till she drops her panties, because that’s what really matters. I guess you asked the question in an inopportune location, Renaissan (is that your real name?).

    Look, I apologize for being perhaps harsh before, and you might be a good guy in other ways, but it seems like you’re lying to yourself. Perhaps you don’t exactly realize what you’re doing, but that tends to happen when people are blinded by desire. It’s a natural tendency, but truly wise people try to rise above that. But it’s silly to say your site is not about what I said. You’ll have your 15 minutes of pleasure, and you don’t think you’ll have any consequence to pay. But please don’t insult my intelligence by saying you’re not manipulating women’s emotions and minds so you can pleasure yourself. That’s what your site is more or less dedicated to. And you can tell yourself that women’s reluctance is only because of pointless social mores, but the fact is, that’s just your opinion, and you’re attempting to impose it on women, as if their feelings don’t matter, and this approach is motivated by a desire for sex, not a woman’s well-being.

    And you’ll probably tell yourself that it’s not just for your own desires, but you’re just trying to free them from useless social strictures so they can experience pleasure. (By the way, it’s a false dichotomy to imply that the only way a woman can experience pleasure is through casual, non-committal sex. Since there’s much more to intimacy than sex, commitment and love compliment sex, and make a whole–something casual sex can never do. I think that when a person is addicted to casual sex, separate from love, or has done it a lot, he or she has a very hard time learning to bring the two together. That’s the price you pay, among other consequences).

    I doubt your first concern is what women want now or in the long run, but what you want in the short run. This is generally true for men looking for casual sex. You are instructing men how to overcome a woman’s desire to hold on to dignity and self-respect by convincing them that your view of sex is right and hers is wrong; by overpowering her desire for dignity with your desire for sex. You simply are using sophistry, salesmanship, manipulation to persuade her to embrace your false opinion that casual sex has no consequences; that there’s no such a thing as a “slut”; that her sincerely held, inherent opinions and feelings about intimacy are silly and should be discarded—so you can do what’s really important: get your jollies. And you use this alter theory that her feelings are only a social construct because it’s what men who have some sense of decency want to believe, so they don’t think they’re using women. But it’s from a limited, selfish perspective, though you might not recognize it. It’s interesting how a man can convince himself of a lie when his level of sexual desire rises above his level of desire for honesty and integrity. But a woman’s feelings to maintain dignity are legitimate, and you’re not ridding her of pointlessly restrictive morals, but you are causing her damage that she’ll have to suffer for, eventually. Do you want that? If you’re a gentleman, you don’t.

    And it’s truly ironic that you use the example of Christ to teach men how to violate the laws of Christ. What did Christ say to the woman after he saved her from justice? “Go your way and sin no more.” He also said “…whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.” Using His words in such a perverse way is wrong.

    Take Care

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    • renaissan

      February 18, 2015 at 12:06 am

      You’re skewing my message, and putting words into my mouth.

      My message is to be non-judgmental, not to be manipulative. Making a woman feel comfortable with sex isn’t manipulative. It’s empathetic.

      Are you saying men want sex, and women want self-dignity? If so, isn’t that a false dichotomy? Why would wanting or having sex do away with a woman’s self-dignity?

      That false dichotomy is the message behind the term “slut” that I’m challenging. What I was trying to say is it’s okay for a woman to want sex. Wanting sex doesn’t equal lack of self-respect.

      I was also trying to say women want sex as much as men. But women have more social stuff to deal with, so they often hide their desires. It’s important, then, for a man to be sensitive to this. By not being judgmental, a guy can make a woman feel more comfortable letting go. Because we BOTH want it. Empathizing isn’t manipulative. Making sure she wants it and is at ease is being respectful.

      Here’s what’s ironic. I’d say it’s this false dichotomy that’s manipulative. Manipulative because it keeps a woman’s sexuality bottled up through negative reinforcement. It says something like, “You have no self-respect if you have sex!” Men don’t have an equivalent term. So, by using this “whip,” i.e. the word “slut,” it makes a woman associate sex with immortality. Makes her almost fear it.

      If you buy into this worldview, know it’s logically inconsistent. Why would sex be immoral for a woman but not for a man? Also, from my experience women love and want sex as much as men do. It’s not that men want sex and women want self-respect. Women want respect AND sex.

      So, I respectfully disagree with you. But I do appreciate you bringing this up. I also appreciate the thought and time you put into your comment. You’re obviously very intelligent.

      By the way, who are? How did you come by my site? What inspired you to read as much as you have? I’m flattered and honored by how much you have. Thank-you for that.

      My real name is Justin. My pen-name is Renaissance because the ideal of the Renaissance Man inspires me.

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