Here’s a great video to keep you on the path. Learning pickup isn’t easy. There’s a lot of pain along the way. A lot of rejection and hurt.
I know for me there were PLENTY of times where I just wanted to throw in the towel. I was like, “it’s too painful, I suck, I’ll never get through this.” But I stuck with it. And I’m so glad I did. I got over the hump.
The key to success–in any area of life–is persistence. This is one of my favorite quotes:
“Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent.” -Calvin Coolidge, 1872 – 1933, 30th U.S. President
Calvin Coolidge, 1872-1933, 30th U.S. President
I promise if you keep getting up off the ground, brushing the dust off, and staying in there… you will find success. Not only will you find yourself attracting women, you’ll transform yourself. That’s the real goal, transformation.
This little video is here to keep you motivated, and keep you on the path.
It’s about what a woman is thinking when you approach her. She’s thinking:
“Who is this guy? What does he want? And how long am I stuck with him for?” -lol, that’s exactly what we think. May I add the question “What is he going to offer me?” I know not all woman may think this right away, but I do think this is why you have to demonstrate high social value, so she thinks you are a valuable person in the world.
Nice. I learned a lot from that comment, so I wanted to share it with you, too.
Let’s break it down real quickly.
When we first approach a woman, we’ve gotta answer these questions:
Who is this guy?
What does he want?
How long am I stuck with him for?
What is he going to offer me?
or else she’s not going to hear a word of what we’re saying.
Luckily, those legendary pickup artists, Style and Mystery, discovered the tools that answer these questions right off the bat. That’s probably why they were such approach masters.
Here are the techniques they invented:
The “root” (reason for why you’re talking with her) answers… “What does he want?”
The “false time constraint” (I’m on my way out/I’m not going to be here forever) answers… “How long am I stuck with him for?”
DHV (self-disclosure) answers… “Who is this guy” and “What is he going to offer me?”
I also loved what she said about “what is he going to offer me?”
Soooo true!
Obviously, we know what’s in it for us if we get with this hot chick.
Well, what’s in it for her if she gets with us? That’s why we’ve gotta give her value IMMEDIATELY.
Enter the DHV.
The DHV is all about HER self-interest.
It’s NOT about you or showing off how great you are. It’s about putting an eager want inside of her… for you.
It’s like if you were to go fishing, putting a worm at the end of a hook instead of a slice of pizza. You might like pizza, but fish like worms. So, you bait the fish with worms (its self-interest) not pizza (your self-interest).
Likewise, there are certain things that attract women that don’t necessarily attract us guys. Understanding what those are and giving them to her IMMEDIATELY ignites an eager want in her. That’s what DHV is all about.
(If you’re curious what those things are that attract women more than us guys, check out my article “5 Attraction Switches” , if you’d like. It’s SUPER helpful to know about them.)
Here’s another reason DHV answers her question “what’s he going to offer me”:
It gives her something of USE. You give her a little gift right off the bat.
For example, if you share a personality test with her, she gets to learn something cool about herself. She’s smiling. Who IS this guy, she might be saying to herself. Thumbs up.
Or, if you share a funny story with her, she gets to laugh and “feel good.” Can you say “Hell, yeah”?
By the way, speaking of “feeling good,” I’ve found an even MORE effective way of answering all these questions right off the bat than the three techniques I just listed above.
And that’s banter.
If you play fight with her… starting with THE SECOND SENTENCE OUT OF YOUR MOUTH (“The Second Sentence Rule”)… in a way where you’re dominant and she’s cute… not only does it make her laugh, but it creates sexual tension.
Mmmmmmmm. Delicious.
And we all know what women say about laughter. How much they hate it and they never look for it in a guy.
Um, yeah right.
My article “Flirting” goes into how exactly to banter in a lot of detail. Again, check it out if you’d like.
Banter is THE key to creating attraction right off the bat. Hands down. Not to sound overly dramatic or anything, but learning that skill changed my life. And I’m not even kidding.
Anyway, keep in mind those questions that Bossymoksie shared with us when guys approach her! Invaluable, invaluable, invaluable. Answer those questions and… hello awesome approach, nice to know you (read: put her at ease). Things from there are cake.
Thanks Bossymoksie for sharing that little pice of gold with us.
For example, you don’t have to drive miles and miles to go see her. Let her drive to see you. You don’t have to be the one who’s always giving her massages. Let her give you a massage. You don’t have to be the one who’s always getting her a drink. Let her get you a drink.
The reason is simple. The more she invests in you, the more she’ll fall for you.
People don’t value free. People value things they work for. Things they have to struggle a little for. Things that cost them a little something.
For good reason, too. We grow when we work for things, not when we’re handed them for free.
Here’s another reason to ask her for a favor once in a while. She’ll backwards rationalize why she’s going out of her way for you. “I must like him,” she might say to herself. And that ain’t never a bad thing, right?
If you’re thinking this sounds a lot like qualification… you’re absolutely, 100%, right. It’s just extending that idea into relationships.
Like we talked about in that little qualification discussion, her attraction grows not when we give to her, but when she gives to us.
Completely counter-intuitive. Believe me, I know.
Now, don’t get me wrong. Getting her small gifts, opening the door for her, giving her massages is great. Fantastic. And I do all that for my girl.
Just make sure you receive, too. Let her give as well.
But here’s where it gets really cool.
One of the things that attracts women… is a guy who knows where he’s going in life. A guy with purpose. A guy who’s discovered his gift and who’s working to give it to the world with all his heart.
Like the Buddha once said: “Your work is to discover your work and give yourself to it with all your heart.”
The beauuuutiful thing is you can combine this idea of qualification (i.e. asking her for a favor) and having purpose. Double whammy, baby!
For example, if your passion is music, have her pick up some guitar strings at the store for you. If you have a business of some sort, have her help you in your business in some way.
She’s investing in you, she’s helping you serve your purpose, AND you get to spend some quality time together. Can you say “attractive”? Haha
So, ask her to do little favors for you, especially when it’s connected with living your purpose. Show her mucho gratitude to her afterwards. And of course return the favor later on.
It can do wonders in keeping your relationship alive.
We train humans how to treat us. That, of course, includes women.
Have you even been in a situation where your woman treats you like shit? But you give her whatever she wants anyway? I mean, you want her to be happy after all. But alas… the behavior just continues.
I know I have. And it sucks. It takes a toll on your pride… and even your manhood, right?
While I was learning pickup, I learned how to stomp that out of my life. Through the concept of shaping. Here’s the concept.
If you get bad behavior from a woman, don’t “reward” her by letting that bad behavior continue. Stop it. Otherwise, she’ll think it’s okay to treat you in that second class way.
The flip side is true, too. If you get good behavior, however tiny, praise her for it. And I guarantee that behavior will continue.
Simple really.
I think this concept comes from B.F. Skinner’s experiments with both human and animal behavior, if I’m not mistaken. To way oversimplify Skinner’s findings: when good behavior is reinforced with praise, that good behavior continues. When bad behavior is associated with negative reinforcement, it stops.
But the genius of “shaping” goes even a step further.
Praise positive behavior even BEFORE she’s demonstrated it, and you create something like a self-fulfilling prophecy.
For example: “I love a woman who doesn’t flake out.” If she cares about seeing you again, chances are she’ll try not to flake out. Nice, right?
Here’s another example: “I love a woman who works out and takes care of herself. It’s super attractive.” Again, chances are likely she’ll make an effort to work out, ’cause she knows that’s what you like in your women.
Then, let’s say she dresses up for a date and she looks fantastic. “You look amazing! I love that dress on you.” Guess what? Exactly. Chances are likely she’ll want to continue looking fantastic for you.
Like I said, simple. But highly effective.
Unfortunately, there’s the shadow part of all this. You’ve got to be able to draw boundaries too, and that means being firm. It can feel like you’re being an asshole, but counter-intuitively, it can actually be a turn on for women. And you earn her respect. So, if I get bad behavior, I’ve learned to call her on her shit RIGHT AWAY.
For example:
Her: Oh, it’s you. What do you want?
You: Hm, sounds like you’re in a bad mood. Call me when you’re in a better one. (hang up)
If you continue to get that bad behavior, let her know it’s not cool with you.
And if it STILL continues, cut her out. There is absolutely NO reason to stick around and take second class treatment. First, you’re not there to be her savior. That’s a door she has to walk through herself. Second, there’s way too many tastier fish in the sea. Why would you waste you time? I’ll take a pass, thank-you.
Another example:
Let’s say she acts bratty and pouty and just plain bitchy. Not a fun combo, right?
Step away from her ass and do not kiss it! Do you hear me? Step away from her ass.
Act cooler towards her.
Or call her on her shit. “You’re acting like a brat right now.” Don’t reward bad behavior.
Now, here’s an important point to this whole concept. You have to make that reinforcement RIGHT when the behavior occurs. Delayed punishment won’t allow her to make an association. Stop it when she’s mid air in the act. She’ll get the association loud and clear that way.
That’s ultimately why I had gotten all that bad behavior when I did. I let it go on and didn’t draw boundaries when I saw the second class bullshit in the first place.
But I’ve learned my mistake, believe me.
And I wanted to pass on this gem of an insight onto you, too. Let her know what’s acceptable behavior and what’s not through praise and drawing boundaries. This shapes how well she’ll treat you for a long ways into the future. Not a bad return on such simple investment.
The best way to be an AMOG? Treat everyone with respect and kindness.
This is actually how Mystery AMOGs. He doesn’t try to tear people down to make himself feel better. He lifts everyone else up.
And guess what happens when you do that? Naturally you put yourself into a leadership role. Hostility is not necessary for dominance.
First and foremost, treat everyone with respect. See the best in people. Make them feel important. People will be cool with you in return. You’ll make friends rather than enemies.
If that doesn’t work it’s onto Plan B.
The basic idea behind Plan B (again): Don’t accept the negative frame. Replace it with a positive one.
Here are some examples. I’ll start with AMOG situations (dealing with guys) and I’ll end with Shit Tests and Bitch Shields (dealing with girls).
There’s three basic categories of technique in either situation. “Ignore,” “Meta-frame” and “Agreeing, but Reducing to the Absurd.”
AMOGs:
1. “Did your mommy buy that shirt for you?”
Ignore. Don’t even respond. Just keep talking about what you were talking about.
2. “Did your mommy buy that shirt for you?”
“Cool man. Anyway.”
Less is more. Still under the “Ignore” category. The more attention you give to him, the more power you give to him. So, give the least possible attention, the least possible words, the least possible reaction.
3. “Did your mommy buy that shirt for you?”
“That was weird. Anyway…”
Here, you stand outside their frame, judging it from a higher place. A “meta” frame. You don’t accept his frame. You see it as weird.
4. “Did your mommy buy that shirt for you?”
“This guy you can dress him up, but you can’t take him anywhere.”
Another example of a “meta” frame. Again, notice how you don’t accept his frame. You step outside it and see it from a higher position. You see it as a social violation.
5. “Did your mommy buy that shirt for you?”
“Yep. Doesn’t she have great taste?”
Here you actually agree with the frame but exaggerate it. The exaggeration makes his frame absurd. The technique is also known as “Yes and…” You simply agree, then exaggerate it. By doing this you’re showing his frame to be ridiculous. You’ve destroyed it with humor.
6. “Is that design on your shirt a sphincter? Man, you’re going to need somebody to protect you, mate. You’re going to have all the guys into you.”
“Dude, that’s why I rolled up on you. I need you, man. Help me, please, man. I look at you, and I just know that you were born to protect my sphincter.”
Another example of agreeing with the frame and exaggerating it to the absurd.
SHIT TESTS AND BITCH SHIELDS:
1. “Do women even like you?”
“Oh my God, you are so cute. Look at you trying to give me shit.”
Eeeeeeeeverything she does is cute. Everything. When you put a label on someone, you don’t accept their negative frame. You interpret theirs another way: her being cute. This is a type of “meta” frame.
The other advantage of specifically calling her “cute”: it creates sexual tension. Sexual tension comes from being dominant, and her being “cute.” In other words, you being masculine, she being feminine.
2. You’re talking and the girl gets all distracted.
“Hey ADD, party’s over here.”
Again, putting a label on someone interprets them in your own way. The frame goes from “you’re not very important” (her frame) to “she gets easily distracted” (your frame). You’ve stepped outside her negative frame using a “meta” frame. Nice.
3. “What kind of shirt is that?”
“Do you always wear that lipstick? Anyway…”
You’re not even answering her frame. You come up with your own. You’ve “Ignored” hers.
4. “You’re a stupid piece of shit. Get the fuck away from me!”
“That was weird.”
OR
“Wow, that was rude.”
Same kind of “meta” frame from above. Instead of playing into her negative frame, you see it from a higher position of judgment: her being completely rude.
Another way to deal with extreme rudeness:
“Oh I get it. You probably act like this all the time, and you probably get away with it too. I don’t buy it. I think that you act like a bitch and you convince people you’re a bitch but really you’re a sensitive person. I know that you’re really a nice person but you have to act this way because a lot of dorks hit on you.”
Credit: Brad P. Here you reinterpret her bitchiness in a positive way. You turn a negative frame into a positive one. Another “meta-frame.”
5. “You’re short.”
“Yes I am. Great things come in small packages.”
Agree and replace her negative insinuation with a positive one. Your positive frame is now in charge.
6. “Do you say this to all the girls?”
“Yes, you’re the 512th person I’ve said this to today.”
Agree and exaggerate.
7. “Does this make me look fat?”
“Yeah, I wasn’t going to say anything.”
Agree and exaggerate.
8. “I have a boyfriend.”
“Maybe he can make us breakfast in bed.”
Agree and exaggerate.
OR
“That’s cool. I have an uncle that has 5 cats. 4 blue ones and 1 red one. He dyed them blue and red. You should check it out sometime. Anyway…”
Agree and exaggerate… take it to the absurd.
9. “Will you buy me a drink?”
“I’d be happy to. But let me get to know you better first.”
Agree, but replace with your own frame. You’re not the stereotypical guy who thinks he has to buy girl’s attention (her frame). Your frame is we’re two human beings. Let’s focus on that first before getting money involved.
By the way, you can do this technique with any other demand she might place on you. In other words, rather than blindly jump through her hoops, let her jump through yours first. Then you can go through hers. That way it’s even. You’re not rewarding potentially spoiled, princess behavior. She gives and you give. For example:
“Sure, but before I do that, give me at least one compliment.”
10. Let’s say she’s giving you bad behavior and she doesn’t respond to a more good-humored response. Then factually point out what she did, and tell her you won’t stand for it:
“This is what you did. This is not cool with me. If this behavior doesn’t change, I’m gone.”
You don’t accept her frame where she thinks she can get away with whatever she wants because she’s hot. Stand outside of her self-absorbed frame, a “meta” frame, and call her on her shit… respectfully. If her behavior still doesn’t change, walk away. You’ve got bigger fish to fry. As a byproduct, this can actually create attraction… while halting bad behavior at the same time.
And that’s about it.
Each technique “Ignore,” “Meta-frame,” and “Agree to the Absurd” has this in common: they disregard a negative frame and replace it with a positive one. Never think you have to accept people’s negative frames. They are mere interpretations of reality, not reality itself. You can always create your own frame… and get things back to reality.
This way you stand up for yourself, but in a way that still treats people with respect.
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Disacknowledge the negative frame and paint your own.
Dealing with AMOGs is kinda like dealing with a computer program with a bad virus. Would you want to play in a virus-infected program?
Hell no!
Same with AMOGs, Shit Tests, and Bitch Shields.
Don’t play into the frame. Shut it down. And replace it with a better one.
For example, someone says “Hey nice shirt. Did you get that in high school?” If you say yes you’re playing into his frame. And if you say no, you’re playing into his frame. Why say yes or no at all? Fuck that shit. Create your own frame that doesn’t make you look like an asshole.
“This guy, you can dress him up, but you can’t take him anywhere.”
See how you don’t even bother answering “yes” or “no”… which plays in his frame… but replace it with something else entirely? The frame you replace his with: this is a guy with no social acuity.
But you also do this with good-humor. Never to harm, hurt, or destroy. Otherwise you look pissy and rude and like a big baby. You say this with a smile on your face.
It’s like dealing with your own negative thoughts. No need to beat yourself up over having them. And for God’s sakes, no need to let the negative thoughts take you over either! Simply recognize you’re having negative thoughts. See they’re not real. Then replace them with positive thoughts, or reality.
So, step one: recognize the words that are coming from the AMOGs for what they are. “Thought-viruses.” It’s not reality. It’s bullshit.
Step two: Ignore the “frame.”
Step three: Replace the negative frame with a positive one. If you don’t replace it, the virus will just come back.
That’s it.
Dealing with AMOGs is just a matter of not playing into their negative frame, and replacing it with your own positive one.
Hold on, hold on, hold on, you say. What the hell is a frame?
Great question.
The word “frame” comes from NLP, “Neuro-Linguistic Programming,” a hybrid of hypnosis and psychotherapy invented in the 1970s. It has some great uses, especially for programming your mind for success.
And that’s how the word “frame” fits into NLP.
The book that really clarified the term for me was “Sleight of Mouth” by Robert Dilts.
Great Book. It really clarified the concept of “frame” for me.
Great read. Highly recommended.
His basic premise was we can program ourselves for failure if we think within a “problem frame.” We can do this in our own thinking, and people can do this to us in order to keep us down. To break free from this “thought virus,” we need to replace this with a higher, “solution frame.” This sets us up for success. The book explores how to do this through language.
There’s a quote in “Hamlet” where Hamlet says, “There’s nothing good or bad but thinking makes it so.” That’s the essence of a frame. We humans are a unique animal. We interpret facts. A frame is an interpretation. It’s a “way of seeing” the world.
The philosopher Wittgenstein said something similar in his “Tractatus.”
One of the great philosophers of the twentieth century: Ludwig Wittgenstein 1889 – 1951.
He said value and meaning don’t lie within the world. The world simply consists of facts. Value must reside outside of the world. Value includes things like aesthetics and ethics, but also negative thinking too.
One example of this is snow. There’s nothing inherently good or bad about snow. It’s simply a fact. We put meaning into the snow by thinking it’s either bad or good. Dilt’s point was when we interpret the snow into a frame of “problem” it can set us up for failure. Interpreting snow into a more positive frame has a better chance of setting us up for success.
AMOGs, Shit Tests, and Bitch Shields are simply a negative frame. It’s a power trip. It’s a way of cutting someone else down to make them look superior. But their frame is not reality. It’s a figment of their imagination. You have the choice of accepting it or disregarding it and creating your own.
And if you reveal their power trip for what it is, you almost don’t have to do a thing. Their negative, power-grubbing frame will work against them. It’s so absurd what they’re really doing, it’s actually funny. Dilts calls stepping out of the frame to reveal what it is a “meta-frame.”
You can also preempt from all this happening, too.
How?
Treat everyone with respect and kindness. This keeps a positive frame. Be cool with people, make ’em feel important, often they’ll be cool with you.
If that doesn’t work, go to Plan B: disregard the frame and replace it with your own.
Again… HOW?
Either step outside the negative frame and call them on their shit… the “meta-frame”…
Or agree and reduce it to the absurd.
I’ll give you some examples in the final part of this article.
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Defend yourself from shit tests, bitch shields, and AMOGs
Here’s a question for you. You treat others with kindness. But how do you handle people who don’t treat you the same way?
I want to be up front. If there’s an area I really want to improve on, and there are plenty, it’s definitely this. But after thinking about this question, reading what others do, trying out different things, I think I’ve gotten a little better understanding, even though I still have a ways to go. I wanna share what I’ve learned so far with you.
Here’s the basic idea: don’t buy into their erroneous “frame.”
Before I unpack that idea, let me backup and give you a quick background on Shit Tests, Bitch Shields, and AMOGs in general first.
“Shit Tests” and “Bitch Shields” are when women play the superiority role, put you down, give you shit, and disrespect you. They want to see if you can handle them. For if you can’t handle their shit, how are you going to protect them from the world of shit that exists?
AMOG stands for “Alpha Male Of the Group.” It’s a concept that was invented by a pickup artist who goes by the name “Tyler Durden,” a former student of Mystery’s. He named himself after the Brad Pitt character in “Fight Club.”
“Tyler Durden,” a.k.a Owen Cook
Anyway, he’s known as one of the legendary pickup artists, and he shows innovativeness in inventing this concept. The origin of how he came up with the concept was documented by Neil Strauss’s book “The Game,” on pages 235 – 237. The story is kinda interesting. In Tyler’s own words:
“I learned most of this from European naturals while trying to steals sets from them and prevent them from stealing sets from me. The guys here are not pushovers like most guys in North America. Many have game. So I’ve been figuring out how to out-game them.”
Apparently while he was in London doing bootcamps, Tyler would be talking to some girls, and guys would come up to him, totally blow him out, and guess who the girls went to? Exactly. The guys who destroyed him.
So, he started analyzing what exactly they were doing to him. He cracked the code, and used their tactics on them, field testing them hundreds of times, and they worked. AMOGs could no longer destroy him. He called these tactics “AMOG.”
Here’s some examples of the tactics from his own mouth:
# 1.
AMOG: Hey girls, what’s up. (trying to steal his set)
TYLER: Hey dude (puts his hands up like he gives up), I will pay you a hundred dollars right now if you take these girls away from me.
GIRLS: No, no. We love you! (giggle, crawl all over Tyler, deflate the AMOG)
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#2.
AMOG: Hey man, keep talking. Let’s hear your pitch. Pick these girls up, man. You’re doing awesome.
TYLER: Hey, you know I’ve gotta try to impress you cool London guys (or “rugby-shirt wearing guys” or “shiny shoes guys” or whatever detail Tyler would gather from a quick look at them and then use that detail against the AMOG to make him feel self-conscious). You guys fucking rock.
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#3.
AMOG: Is that design on your shirt a sphincter? Man, you’re going to need somebody to protect you, mate. You’re going to have all the guys into you.
TYLER: Dude, that’s why I rolled up on you. I need you, man. Help me, please, man. I look at you, and I just know that you were born to protect my sphincter.
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#4.
AMOG: (startes touching him to show dominance)
TYLER: Haha dude. I’m not into guys, man. Dude, the gay club is over there. Hands off the merchandise, buddy.
GIRLS: laughing
AMOG: qualifying to you he’s not gay.
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#5.
AMOG: (gets into your face)
TYLER: (silence. Doesn’t respond. Tyler just stands there quietly. As a general rule, Tyler discovered that if a guy keeps trying to out-alpha you and you don’t answer, eventually he looks beta because he is trying too hard to get your attention. Another trick is to make “let’s get out of here” motions with your eyes to your girls. Speaking “girl language” to girls… always a good thing.)
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#6.
AMOG: (shows signs he wants to fight)
TYLER: Haha dude. Are you like trying to pick a fight with me? haha. Okay, okay. Hold up, hold up. Wait a sec. We’ll do even better. First, we’ll have an arm wrestling competition. Then we’ll do one-armed pushups. And last, pose-down! (Starts flexing) Ladies?
GIRLS: (laughing) Ooh you’re so strong.
AMOG: (tooled because he looks like he’s trying too hard to impress the girls with his physical superiority)
Neil later in the book accused Tyler of worshipping the AMOG concept a little bit too much.
Neil, along with Tyler, were both students of Mystery. Neil and Mystery became best friends. And Tyler went on to use everything Mystery taught him to profit from it. Most pickup artist businesses out there have done the same thing, the founders starting out as students of Mystery then creating their own business based on his ideas. Anyway, Tyler called his business “Real Social Dynamics,” based on a term Mystery invented “social dynamics.” It’s still one of the top pickup artist businesses to this day.
But that wasn’t even the worst of it. “The Game” talks about how Neil a.k.a Style, Mystery, Tyler, and other pickup artists had all lived under the same roof called “Project Hollywood.” Well, to eliminate his competitors, Tyler used some of these AMOG techniques as backhanded ways to “freeze out” both Neil and Mystery from the house to turn it into a place for his Real Social Dynamics business.
Obviously I’m just repeating what I read in the book. I wasn’t there.
Neil also said that he had said to Tyler once that Tyler was the type of person who liked to rise to the top of a situation by eliminating his competitors, and Tyler agreed (page 427).
So, even though there’s good to Tyler’s AMOG concept, there seems to be some shady male ego stuff attached to it, too. I’m not interested in that part of the concept. Rather than using the AMOG techniques to “destroy” other guys, I’m more interested in simply learning how to defend yourself from these kinds of people… in the most ethical way possible.
Here’s one of the most important things to take away from Tyler’s AMOG concept. It’s the observation there’s often a power struggle in human interactions. People have egos. And people will cut you down in order to satisfy those little monsters.
The question is: if you come across a guy who says to you in front of a bunch of girls: “Nice shirt. I had one like that in high school”… What do you do?
The basic solution is this. These people are creating an imaginary “frame” about you. But it’s a false frame. And unless you reveal it to be false, people might take it for reality, including yourself. Don’t accept this false “problem frame.” Create a better, truer frame of your own.
How?
This post has gotten long. So, I’ll tell you exactly how in “Part II.”
