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Women love to get FUCKED!

We don’t have to talk a women into having sex.

Women love sex! They actually WANT to have sex.

Okay, well maybe if she has sex out of obligation… Or if sex for her is’t fun… then maybe she won’t want it.

But if she ENJOYS the sex… why would anyone NOT want to do something that feels awesome?

Then you look at a book like Nancy Friday’s “Secret Garden” about women’s fantasies.

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And you see a theme. A lot of women’s fantasies have to do with being dominated, “ravaged,” and “taken.” You realize, women don’t just love sex, they love to get FUCKED!

What does that mean?

#1. FUCK her.

You don’t always have to make “sweet love” to a woman. Of course there’s a time and a place for that. And women do enjoy it. But women also love to get raunchy, animalistic, and naughty. They love dirty talk, they love to be taboo, and they love to be dominated. Women are horny and deeply sexual.

So, talk dirty. Make noise. Pull her hair. Pin her hands behind her head. Slap her ass. Feel her tits. Pick her up. Bend her over. Throw her on the bed. Fuck her pussy. GET IN TOUCH WITH THE ANIMAL WITHIN. Get completely and totally turned on by her. Dominate her. And above all, ENJOY being with her.

#2. Don’t Be Judgmental.

Never EVER pass judgment on her sexuality. It’s GREAT that she’s sexual! Love it.

And isn’t weird that there’s no equivalent derogatory word “slut” for a man? You call a man a “male slut” and it’s almost a compliment. The concept “slut” imprisons women, it doesn’t liberate them.

The more you’re okay with her sexuality, the more she’ll be comfortable enough to unleash the sexual MONSTER inside of her. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh. Love it love it love it.

#3. Attitude — She Wants You

You already have what she wants. You have a cock and she wants it. Never have to talk a woman into sex. Never have to kiss her ass to get laid. Never have to spend loads of money on her to fuck her. Just turn her on.

#4. GIve Her Sex She ENJOYS

Make her FEEL good inside, and turn her body on. Both. Technique won’t do it alone. Then make sure she has an orgasm before you do. And watch out. She’ll be begging YOU for sex.

David Shade was the first person to open my eyes to this. My experiences with women have shown this to be true over and over and over again. And, let me tell you, there’s nothing more beautiful in the world than a woman in ecstasy. She WANTS to get fucked, so goddammit FUCK her!


Foreplay IS sex

It’s almost as if all you need to be a better lover is do what most guys don’t do.

Yeah, great. Thanks for that stellar insight. But what EXACTLY does that mean?

Spend MORE TIME turning her on and working her up.

If you wait to penetrate her, making her WANT you to penetrate her, by the time you penetrate her she’s already probably pretty close to orgasm.

Like, picture a graph. 0 is her picking her toenails and 10 is orgasm. If you wait to penetrate her when she’s at a 9 (or even a 10), it makes it more likely she’ll come while you’re fucking her. Right?

But I shouldn’t even mention penetration. Get penetration outta your mind. In fact, pretend you don’t have a dick. Pretend you’re a lesbian.

Okay, now that you got penetration out of the way, guess what her largest sexual organ is? HINT: it ain’t her pussy or her tits. It’s her BRAIN and her HEART. So, instead of stimulating her pussy, stimulate her feelings.

Stimulate Her Feelings

That means, first of all, start sex OUTSIDE of the bedroom. With your clothes on.

It’s weird, I know. But women get turned on different from us. We’re like a light switch. We see a nice ass. BAM! Okay, ready to go. Let’s get it on.

Women are more like a pot of water, though. Water doesn’t go from room temperature to boiling right away. You gotta keep it over the heat a little while. When it’s heated up, holy shit, it’s boiling. Niiiiiiice! So, spend more time making her feel good, desired, taken care of, loved, beautiful.

Drive out to the country. Go for a walk in a park. Have dinner at a romantic restaurant. Send her a text telling her you can’t wait to see her. Open the car door for her. Tell her she looks beautiful.

Here’s probably the most important part. Make her feel RELAXED and SAFE as well as make her feel BEAUTIFUL. And never EVER be judgmental. If you make her feel like shit, or like she’s undesirable and if she doesn’t feel relaxed or good around you, sex (and ESPECIALLY her orgasm) ain’t gonna happen.

To make her feel safe, first of all, be comfortable with sex yourself.

Second of all, never pass any sexual judgment.

Stay away from saying things like, “that’s weird” or “that’s gross.” No. It’s all good. You’re not afraid of sex. You’re totally comfortable with it. She’ll feel more safe to let go if you are. She knows you’re not going to laugh at her or pass judgment if her body’s shaking or she’s making those glorious sounds you hear only when she’s over the top.

When you think about it, it’s scary to let go. So, you gotta be man enough to catch her. In fact, you can even tell her, “I got you baby. I got you.”

And to make her feel relaxed, give her a massage, hold her, hug her. Put on some candles, some music, set the mood. A glass of wine doesn’t hurt either.

You ain’t going no where. You’re gonna take your time. If she doesn’t feel relaxed and safe, she’s not gonna reach the summit.

And another great tip I recently learned from author Tom Leonardi is: massage her legs, her feet,

her ass, her back. Guys rarely do this. Not only does it turn you and her on, but it goes a long way to relaxing her, too.

Finally, express yourself. Don’t be all silent. Make sounds. If you wanna yell, yell. If you wanna say “I wanna fuck you so hard,” fucking say it. If you want your dick sucked, tell her “I want you to suck my dick.” Communication doesn’t magically evaporate once you’re in bed. You MUST communicate even more when you’re IN bed.

And, let’s be honest here, what guy wants to be with a woman who’s all silent? Who wants to be with a pancake? Doesn’t it turn you on when you hear a woman making sounds of ecstasy and talking dirty? I know it does for me. And I know girls love it, too. When she hears us enjoying ourselves, it turns her on just like it turns us on. BONUS… it keeps her mind from wondering. It keeps her mind in the present moment.

Oh, and speaking of the “present moment,” making eye contact with her while you’re fucking her is AWESOME. It’s awesome, because you connect with her not just on a physical level, but on an emotional and even spiritual level, too.

So, after this largest sexual organ, guess what her second largest sexual organ is? Still not her pussy or her tits. Haha It’s her SKIN all over.

Stimulate Her Skin

Stimulate ALL of her skin.

Explore all of her body, no matter how “non-sexual.” For example, biting (LIGHTLY) the crease of her inner elbow can be a major turn on.

And speaking of biting, you don’t have to just kiss or lick. You can bite, lightly scratch, blow, suck…  It’s like you’re this artist with a palette of tools and colors to work with. But DON’T put your dick in her right away. Enjoy, man even savor, this beautiful woman right here, right now, right in front of you. It’s fucking amazing.

Foreplay isn’t separate from sex. It IS sex.

I learned these lessons from Tom Leonardi, Alex Allman, David Shade, Mirabelle Summers, Gabrielle Moore, and Ellen Eatough.

The Five Principles of Female Pleasure

This is adapted from an article I read by Mirabelle Summers. She thought even though every woman is different there were five universal guidelines to follow in giving any woman pleasure:

1. Your attention goes on HER, not on you

• Don’t get bogged down by goals like “I need to give her an orgasm” or “I need to last all night.” In that scenario, you’re placing attention on you, not on her. Instead, pay attention to her subtle responses and adapt to them—like a good listener in a conversation.

• Take care or her before you take care of yourself.  After all, it takes longer for her to get warmed up than for us. As the saying goes, men are like light switches–flip them and we’re ready to go. Women are like pots of water–they need time to boil. So, warm her up before pleasing yourself. And it doesn’t start in the bedroom. It starts outside with how you treat her. Make her feel beautiful and wanted… the water has already started to boil.

• Focus on what works for her, not on your pride (i.e. “I need to be the best ever”). This attitude of putting aside your pride, according to her, will put you in the sexual elite of men.

2. ALL women are DIFFERENT

• For every woman, the rule book is written afresh. So take the time to discover what THIS SPECIFIC woman HERE AND NOW prefers.

• To complicate things further, the same woman’s preferences also changes from moment to moment—so pay attention to her changes of mood and adjust accordingly.

3. Communicate and Pay Attention


• Observe her to figure out what’s working or not. For example, if she’s flat and quiet, change what you’re doing or take a step back, tell her she’s beautiful, and ask how she’s feeling. But if her back is arching, her legs are opening further, she’s moaning and panting, DON’T STOP THE RHYTHM–keep doing what you’re doing (unless of course you wanna tease her little before she explodes…observe the cat playing with the mouse hehehe)

• Verbal Communication: ASK if she likes what you’re doing. She’ll appreciate this—a lot. I’ve talked to women about this and they said they wished guys would do this more often.  They all say it would make her comfortable enough to tell us what she likes or doesn’t like. It also shows you have the BALLS—and humility—to ask. And the fact you want to please her and not just yourself, will make you stand out in her mind. Also, asking/talking to her prevents her mind from wondering and keeps her in the present moment, which will get her closer to mind-blowing bliss.

• Non-Verbal Communication: for example, if you’re fingering her, place her hand in your palm and ask her to trace circles on your palm. Follow her rhythm. If she presses on your palm, apply pressure. If she eases pressure, ease pressure. You can even can say, “Hey, squeeze my hand if you like how this feels.” This is VERY effective, especially if you have a girl who’s on the shy side to talk in bed.

4. Anticipation

* You know that long, slow vertical climb on a roller coaster? The anticipation of the drop makes your heart beats faster? Then when you reach the peak, you surrender to the drop and scream with excitement. That feeling of anticipation is what you want to build inside her.

• 75% of her enjoyment comes from her MIND

• Soooooo…build a YEARNING within her MIND AND body.

• DO NOT go straight to her obvious sexual parts or to intercourse. Take a detour, maybe slowly tracing patterns on her skin. OR lean in for a kiss, but don’t kiss her. OR when she’s about to cum, back off and let her finish when YOU want to. TAKE YOUR FUCKING TIME before going anywhere near her vagina.

• Make her BEG for it. Make her LONG for it. Make her ACHE for it. Once you enter her, she’ll be so close to orgasm already that making her cum is a cinch. Man, women love this shit…they take pleasure in the process, not the goal. Actually, you know what? Now that I’ve been doing this, I so much prefer it this way, too. I mean, wouldn’t you prefer to enjoy the taste of your food making the experience last rather than wolfing it down?

5. No Performance

• Don’t be perfect. When you watch sex on the big screen it looks all perfect and serious with violins playing in the background, but you don’t have to mimic that. Have you ever seen the way your face looks during sex? It ain’t pretty. I’ve also fallen off the bed, bumped heads—there’s a lot of funny clumsy shit that happens during sex. We all know how much women love to laugh and how much that turns them on.  So why stop when you’re in bed with her (or on the kitchen table or wherever you are)?  Play, laugh, have fun, talk during sex. It doesn’t have to be this big dramatic thing where all of a sudden you’re not allowed to talk or look each in the eye anymore. WTF, right?

• Put aside the ego. You’re going to fuck-up. So fucking what? How else are you going to learn? Roll with it and move on. More important than “performing,” is leading her, discovering new lands together. That attitude takes a lot of pressure off you and makes us less self-conscious. And without that self-consciousness, now we can make some art.

• Rather than perform, be together with her.