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Sex Tips, Part 8: Fucking

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Ready to get the Kama on

1. Don’t pound away for 30 minutes: That just gets tiring for her.

2. Take a break from pounding: Stop in the middle of fucking, but stay inside her.  Let the sensations rush over you. That little bit of variety is better than pounding away endlessly.

3. Rock you hips: Think the way a Latin Lover moves his hips. Here are some ideas of what you can do:

  • Grind: push yourself to the root of your dick. Roll hips side-to-side.
  • Figure-Eight: Twist hips in figure eight… can hit her clit.
  • Scoop: Scoop with your hips, like lifting her up from inside her pussy… can hit her G-spot.
  • Slow-Deep and Fast-Shallow: Alternate between the two. Too much fast thrusting can numb her pussy. Slow and deep is usually best. It allows the tension and orgasm to build.

4. Tantric Strokes: Thrust 9 shallow, 1 deep. 8 shallow, 2 deep. 7 shallow, 3 deep… until you get to 10 deep. Then start over again. Builds sexual tension. Good variety. Shallow strokes hit the G-spot.

5. Put a pillow under her butt: This lifts up her pelvis, so it’s easier to hit her G-spot. Usually, your penis just hits air. She won’t orgasm that way. When her pelvis is up, you can actually touch her pussy. That’s a good thing.

Here's a drawing I drew showing how to put a pillow under butt. The other drawing shows how you hit her G-spot.

Here’s a drawing I drew showing a guy putting a pillow under his girl’s butt. The second drawing is meant to show how that allows him to hit her G-spot.

6. Pin her hands down and Pull her hair: Women actually LIKE to be dominated (not just the sweet stuff, although that has its time and place, too).

The sweet stuff has its time and place, but women also LIKE to be dominated, too.

The sweet stuff has its time and place, but women also LIKE to be dominated… and FUCKED!

7. Bend her legs: You’ve probably done all these, but here are some cool options… her legs around your neck. Legs on your chest. Lift her legs and cross them. And so on. These positions get you deeper. And the domination feels great.

8. Cowgirl Ride: I got this from a book Kim Cattrall wrote with her husband called “Satisfaction.” She said it’s her favorite stroke and makes her come. Here it is…

From "Satisfaction," by Kim Cattrall and Mark Levinson (Illustration by Fritz Drury). She can orgasm a lot in this position. It requires her to move her butt up and down. You get to lie there, hold her, stroke her hair, kiss her...

From “Satisfaction,” by Kim Cattrall and Mark Levinson (Illustration by Fritz Drury). She can orgasm a lot in this position. It requires her to move her butt up and down. You get to lie there, hold her, stroke her hair, kiss her…

Have her on top. Slide your dick along her G-spot and out. Then slide your dick on her clit back inside her pussy along G-spot. Then slide it out along her clit and back inside her pussy along G-spot. Keep repeating. Double whammy. Lets the sexual tension build.

9. Doggy Style: Put a pillow under her stomach, so it’s easier to hit her G-spot.

Here's another drawing I drew of a guy putting a pillow under his girl's stomach doggy style. Again, the second drawing is meant to show how this helps him hit her G-spot.

Here’s another drawing I drew of a guy putting a pillow under his girl’s stomach doggy style. Again, the second drawing is meant to show how this helps him hit her G-spot.

10. Standing Position: Pick her up, and while you’re standing fuck her. One of my favs. Or, bend her over a bed or table and fuck her from behind (while you’re standing). Very nice.

11. Use sex toys: Incorporating a vibrator while fucking her can be fun. So, while you’re hitting her G-spot with your dick, you’re stimulating her clit. Nothing wrong with that.

12. Multi-task: Girls love it when you stimulate two or three body parts while inside her. For example, when you’re fucking her, kiss her tits. Or pull her hair. Or kiss her neck. Or rub her feet. Or kiss her deeply. Or put a finger in her ass. You get the idea. The more stimulation, the merrier.

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Multi-tasking is always a good thing. For example, kissing her tits while you’re fucking her.

How To Think About Success With Women

I want to share with you an idea that changed my thinking about how to be successful with women.

It came from “Double Your Dating” by David DeAngelo.

This is what he said:

“…women have a ‘shadow’ or dark side.

This dark side is secretly wanting a man that is in control of himself, his reality, and them.

But they’d never admit it – often not even to themselves.”

When I first read that, it gave me a MASSIVE jolt in my thinking.

He went on…

“But their unconscious knows and recognizes this as something that they want. They hold a kind of inner CONTEMPT for the weak people (especially men) who give them everything they want…”

A lot of us guys think we have to put a woman on a pedestal for her to like us. We have to kiss her ass. Buy her drinks at a bar to get her to talk to us. Get her flowers and jewelry to woo her. Spend lots of money on dinner before she’s even had sex with us to get sex. And later down the line if she gets upset or acts bitchy, just put up with it.

Basically, keep spoiling her like a brat.

The funny thing is, the more we do that kind of stuff, the more we turn her off. She’ll see us as “Oh, he’s just a guy I use to buy me things” or “he’s just my boy toy.” It’s counter-intuitive, but she resents and disrespects a guy who gives her too much.

I understand it’s not politically correct to say this. But what women really want is a guy who’s in charge. A guy who doesn’t put up with her bullshit and who’s not afraid to call her on it–respectfully, of course. A man who expects her to carry her own weight. Who doesn’t reward her bad behavior. Who isn’t afraid to draw boundaries.

She doesn’t want to dominate a guy. And I think you and I can agree that we don’t want to be dominated by a woman. Would that make you feel like a man? Of course not. Being in control of yourself and them (as a leader, NOT an oppressive dictator) does.

Well, good news is, a woman wants a dominate man. She might have her life together, but she still wants a man who can dominate her, someone who can rescue her, someone she can look up to. A dominate man allows her to relax, surrender, and he makes her feel like a woman.

I’ll give you a quick example.

Let’s say you approach a woman and in the middle of your opener she starts looking at her phone. Or if her friends come in, she starts talking to her friends, leaving you out.

I don’t know about you, but that’s just plain rude.

Like you, I’ve been in that situation. It sucks.

You could just go along with it.

Or, you could say something like “Hey, party’s over here” if she’s looking at her phone.

And “Introduce me to your friends, it’s the polite thing to do” if she’s talking to her friends without acknowledging you.

(Credit goes to Tyler Durgen for the first line and Mystery to the second line. I use em all the time. Veeeery effective.)

The point is, call her on her shit–respectfully.

I guarantee she’ll stop what she’s doing and she’ll make some excuse for her rudeness, then pay full attention to you. I’d put money that she’d feel more attracted to you because she might say to herself, “Here’s a man that won’t let me get away with my bullshit. This is a man I can respect.”

A woman wants a man who can take control. She doesn’t really want to be the one who has to make all the decisions or manipulate you and get her way by acting like the world revolves around her. She wants to dance with a man who takes a strong lead and who keeps her in check.

Domination is a HUGE turn on for women. You could say it’s THE key to attracting women.