Sex Tips, Part 6: Fingering

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I. Fingering the Clit

1. Upper Right Quadrant (i.e. “one o’clock” YOUR–the man’s–perspective) of clit: This is the most sensitive part of the clit. Lightly stroke.

2. Use plenty of lube: A dry finger hurts and doesn’t feel good. Use plenty of lube while stroking her clit.

3. Light pressure: Women prefer lighter stimulation… not hard pressure… especially since the clit is so sensitive.

4. Tease the clit at first: Don’t attack it. Touch, then back off. Touch some more, then back. Or you could do this. Stroke one side. Then the top. Then the bottom. Stroke in circles. Then up and down. Or side to side. In other words, warm her up. When you find a rhythm she’s like “hell yeah!” keep the same rhythm.

5. When you find a rhythm she likes: This is an idea I got from the book “ESO: Extended Sex Orgasm” by Alan and Donna Brauer. Use that rhythm for ten strokes, then relax for two (for example, where you’re not directly on the clit). It increases sexual tension.

II. Fingering the G-Spot

1. Get foreplay and rapport first: Talk and laugh. Kiss. Stroke her skin. Massage her feet. Lick her clit. This relaxes her. If you dive straight for the G-spot, she’ll resist.

2. Use plenty of lube: You can never have too much lube. Also, make sure fingernails are short.

3. Start slow and DON’T attack the G-spot: Finger her a little. Move your fingers around inside her pussy, then take your fingers out. Taking your fingers away makes her crave your fingers more.

4. G-Spot Location: 1″ – 2″ inside. Up toward the sky. When she’s aroused, you know you’ve got it because it feels like a tiny ball or coin. When she’s not aroused, often you won’t be able to feel it. Why does it feel like a ball? It’s where the female prostrate gland is. That’s what the G-spot is.

G-Spot

In women it’s called the “Skene glands.” When a woman gets wet, that’s where the fluid comes from. When you stroke the G-spot, you’ll hear a squishing sound. You’re on the right track. That’s her Skene Glands making more of the liquid. Stroke it enough, liquid bursts out… a squirting orgasm.

It’s not pee. She’ll say she feels like she has to pee while you’re doing it. But the reality is, it’s the same stuff that makes her pussy wet. You can see this when a girl pees after she’s orgasmed. She had held in the ejaculate, and now she’s emptying it. If she doesn’t believe you, have her pee before you stroke the G-spot. If she feels like she has to pee… well, then she’ll know it’s not pee.

5. G-spot technique: Use the two middle fingers. Hand moves up and down. Fingers pull her towards you, like “come here” motion. Do both these movements at the same time. Think of it as tickling the G-spot. Tickle, but a FIRM tickle.

When you hear that sloshing sound, go really fast. Not necessarily hard… though the G-spot can take more pressure than the clit. But quick. Fast and furious. Shouldn’t take too long after that. After she’s come, you can make her come again. And again, and again. Unlike the clit where after she orgasms, it’s too sensitive to be touched again. Not so with the G-spot.

III. Finger the Anus

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1. Knock at her backdoor: While fingering her pussy with one hand, run a finger from your other hand along the rim. Rub lightly in a circular motion.

2. If she doesn’t swat you away: wet your finger and SLOWLY push the tip inside. It’ll prep you for some anal stimulation later…

20 thoughts on “Sex Tips, Part 6: Fingering

  1. melissa

    As a woman, you know what you’re talking about and should really share this stuff with more men. Women everywhere thank you. lol

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    1. renaissan

      You just made my day saying that. And you as a woman validating these techniques help give this article some credibility. Thank-you Melissa!

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  2. missque

    This man knows what he’s talking about! Too many men just dive in fast and furious like they think it’s some crazy porno scene! No no no…girls get turned on by slow, teasing and sensual…just like this dude said!

    10/10 tips from a girl 🙂 xx

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    1. renaissan

      THANK-YOU! It helps when a woman can validate tips a guy’s writing about on how to succeed with women. And your description nails this whole post on the head in just a few words: don’t dive in, take your time. Thank-you so much for comment. It’s much appreciated.

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    2. Timbo

      Yo, this stuff is the best free info anywhere, I would know, cuz I researched this type of thing for four years

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  3. Chris Parker

    Fingering a woman is one of the great ways to kick off an awesome sexual experience which mutually benefits both. Most of the time occurring prior to cunnilingus or along with it, fingering could be a more fun & effective technique to help her achieve more orgasm. When doing sex, its highly important to know how to turn a girl hot using your magical fingers. Still not confident after reading this article, don’t worry, try sites like http://www.best10.net for perfect sex tips. You will find amazing fingering techniques that will make your sex experience more incredible.

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  4. Tallkiwi

    I often hear the “upper right quadrant of the clit” but is this from her perspective or mine when I’m going down on her?

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    1. renaissan

      GREAT question! It’s from YOUR (the man’s) perspective. In other words, find “one o’clock” on her clit. That’s where you want lick or lightly stroke. Thanks for asking this question. I’m going to go into my post now and clarify that.

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    1. renaissan

      Did you read item #5 above?

      G-Spot Location: 1? – 2? inside. Up toward the sky. When she’s aroused, it feels like a tiny ball. When she’s not aroused, it’s hard to feel it. It feels like a ball because the G-spot is where the female prostrate gland is. But in women it’s called the “Skene glands.” When she’s aroused, the gland fills with fluid.

      So, yes, the G-spot is the place where a woman’s love fluid comes from. When you stroke that glad, you’ll hear a squishing sound. You know you’re on the right track. Her Skene Glands/prostrate gland/G-spot is making more liquid.

      As always, though, be gentle at first and use lube. If she’s not aroused at first, stroking her G-spot can irritate her. I’d recommend stimulating her clit first to get her aroused before stroking her G-spot. Later on (when she’s wet) you could stimulate both her clit and G-spot at the same time (and drive her really wild).

      Does this help at all?

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    1. renaissan

      That’s what I like to hear! When you hear a lesbian say “hell yeah,” you know you’re on the right track. Thanks TheLWord. Your comment means a lot.

      Reply

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