I’m gonna dig into one of my favorite subjects here.
You can have your inner and outer-games together, but if you don’t know what to do with her when you get her into bed, she might not be coming back to you for more.
Here’s some sex tips I’ve learned along the way. There’s a few here, so I’m gonna split them into separate posts. Starting with how to prep, and going all the way to intercourse.
As you could probably tell from the title of this one, this post is all about how to get prepped.
>>>TIP #1. Masturbate.
Wait, wait, wait. Isn’t masturbation bad?
Well, like my basketball coach used to say, practice don’t make perfect. PERFECT practice makes perfect.
Same thing with sex. And masturbation is your practice. How you masturbate is how you’ll perform. Bust a nut FAST… guess what? That’s probably how you’ll be with her.
By the way, WARNING: Ejaculating too often weakens your shit.
I know, I know. Seems crazy. I thought the same thing.
But here’s the thing. You can actually orgasm without ejaculating. Swear to God.
They’re two separate physical functions. We’re used to experiencing them happening together, so we’ve come to believe they’re the same. They’re not. And you can train yourself to separate one from the other.
Rate your sexual excitement from 1 – 10. 10 is orgasm. 1 is Janet Reno on a cold day. When you get to 7, back off. Masturbate again until you get to 8, then back off again. Masturbate again until you get to 9, then back off.
It takes a shit load of practice and discipline. To be honest, it took me about 9 months. But I had a lot of fun along the way. I mean… who said that?
And, don’t worry. Guys have succeeded in getting non-ejaculatory orgasms in way less time than I did.
But goddam, it feels so good, you just want to come. So, it’s a bitch and a half. If you come, no worries. Don’t beat yourself up about it. Just keep at. Soon, you’ll be orgasming without ejaculating. I promise.
Here’s another tip about lasting longer. When you focus too much sexual energy in your cock, you spew. Same thing when you tense up your groin muscles. Tension makes you ejaculate.
So, relax your groin muscles. You last longer. Magic!
Also, move the sexual energy away from your cock and move it throughout your body. You kinda have to use your imagination to do this.
First, feel the sexual energy in your body. Usually, you’ll feel it down there. Then, when you inhale, breathe the energy away from your cock down to your toes… or up to your head… or your chest… or wherever you want.
This allows you to have an “internal” orgasm, rather than an “external” one. And when you can have an internal orgasm, you can have multiple orgasms, too. I know I have.
I’m aware that this sounds a little crazy. It did to me when I first heard it. But open your mind and try it out. When you experience it, you’ll know what I mean.
Here’s the biggest pay off.
You train yourself to enjoy the “process” of sex rather than rush to the climax. This heightened awareness helps you become a better lover. When you’re fully present with the woman you’re with, you get to enjoy the real fun in sex. Not the climax, but the here and now.
So, again, the way you masturbate is how you perform. Practice NOT ejaculating.
>>>TIP #2. Trim your nails.
If you finger her and your nails aren’t trimmed, you can seriously hurt her. Trim your nails.
>>>TIP #3. Shave.
That stubble can feel like 60-grit sandpaper on her face and thighs. Shave, so you don’t hurt her.
>>>TIP #4. Keep condoms handy.
Keep em under the pillow. Then when it’s time to put it in, you don’t have to go hunting for one. It’s right there. Also, keep one in the car console, in case you don’t make it to the bedroom.
>>>TIP #5. Keep lube handy.
You can never have too much lube. Extra lube helps with clit stimulation, G-spot stimulation, and deep-spot stimulation. Certain lubes can also work great for massages, too. And as you and I know, massages are PRIMO in getting women in the mood.
Lesson? You can never have too much lube. Keep the mo-fo handy.
Wow, powerful tip there Ren’ with the masturbation that all of us guys can relate to.
Training ourselves to not bust a nut during masturbation would quite naturally translate to actual intercourse.
Bringing yourself close to ejaculating and stopping will actually train your PV muscles to clench at the time of ejaculation to make you last longer.
I think it’s PV or PC muscles. Can’t quite remember.
It IS a powerful tip. I learned it from Alex Allman (“Command and Control”) and David Deida (“Enlightened Sex”). It’s the PC muscles. And you’re right, you can strengthen and control them… the way a pianist has mastery over the piano. I’m not perfect at it, though. I’m still working at it. But changing the way I masturbate has improved my “sex” game. Thanks for the comment man.
I’m far from perfect at mastering it. I have other means to handle premature ejaculation, but controlling the pc muscles is another route to this prob.
Amen to that
Good points, hygiene is also key. I think a lot of guys who don’t have very active sex lives don’t clean themselves very well in the groin region. This makes it very unlikely a woman will want to spend time down there. If you want her down there, make it inviting. That’s an area of the body that can accumulate a lot of sweat and odor-causing bacteria.
I actually haven’t been totally clean-shaven in years. A decent amount of scruff is part of my look, just the way it is 🙂 A lot of girls like it, it’s a masculine thing.
Good point! I should have put that in there. And I’m glad you pointed this out.
The best place for your hair is on your head. I don’t think you have shave your pubes completely off, but they should at least be trimmed… and washed, like you said. You don’t wanna be scaring off any girls haha.
Thanks for this great addition my man
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I loose myself soon .how to increase my strength to go on for long time
Check out “Tip #1” on Masturbation. I answer that question right there. Let me know if you have any questions. Thanks for writing in Sunil!