Here are three steps I’ve learned from people smarter than me about how to listen:

1. First, listen without interrupting. Shut out everything else except what a person’s saying.

2. Second, ask for clarification: “how do you mean?”

3. Third, repeat back in your own words.

I can’t tell you how seductive it is to be a great listener. Shows you care. Shows you’re tuned into this woman right here right now.

Incidentally, being a great listener is also the key to being a great lover.