How to Attract Women INSTANTLY
Thanks again for signing up for my email newsletter. As a thank-you I want to share with you THE one thing I’ve learned that attracts women instantly.
For the longest time I wanted to know how to attract a woman on purpose. You know, how a woman attracts you with her cleavage? It took me a few years to realize that play-fighting is it. It changed my game, and really my life. Because it gave me more confidence, social freedom… and a sense of humor.
So, why does play-fighting work so well? Three reasons as far as I can see.
First, it’s all about positive energy.
You’re not taking yourself seriously when you play-fight. That’s an attitude of strength. That’s attractive.
Also, play-fighting is the opposite of being factual. It’s imaginative. And imagination is like a breath of fresh air.
‘Cause all of a sudden you don’t have to be this serious, rational adult anymore worried about power and status. You become two four-year-olds playing in a sandbox, not trying to impress anymore, just being in the zone.
These are all pleasurable feelings. If you can get a girl to feel pleasure in your presence and link that pleasure to you, she’ll want more of you.
Second, play-fighting is “sexual” humor.
Play-fighting assumes a romantic (and sexual) context. You play a dominant male, who’s got a line of girls interested in him. She’s another “cutie” who’s chasing you. And you’ve gotta push her away.
Third, in play-fighting there’s a challenge.
‘Cause you’re pushing her away. And let me tell you, the more you push a woman away, the more she wants in. It’s a quirk in all us humans. We pursue that which retreats from us.
Net result? You’re playing! Together. She feels a sexual dynamic. She feels a challenge, playing this game of tug-o-war. Some call this “chemistry.” You can create that through play-fighting.
But here’s the catch. This kind of attraction doesn’t last long. It’s like going to a comedy, laughing, and forgetting it the next day.
Play-fighting’s the hook. It helps her WANT to connect with you.
To create long-lasting attraction, you need substance. That means after you share a laugh, share who you are (in an attractive way… for example your passion in life). Get curious about her, then connect with her. That’s long-lasting attraction.
But I’m getting ahead of myself. I get into all that plus A LOT more in a book I wrote called “The Mystery of Women.” In this letter, let’s just focus on play-fighting. We can talk about the rest of that stuff another time.
For now, let me give you three easy steps you can follow so you can start practicing it TODAY. AND I’ll give you some killer lines, too. You’ll see how this INSTANTLY attracts chicks.
STEP ONE. Choose a character: Authority Figure, Valley Girl, or The Selector
Let me give you the rationale behind step one.
Ever seen a beautiful woman and you were like, ‘She’s better than me. I can’t get her. I’m not good enough for her’? I know I have. We’ve all been there. We put this girl on a pedestal above us. We make her the the judge of us. And we feel like we’re on some audition for her.
Well, choosing a character flips that script on its head. You be the judge, she the judgee. You be the selector, she the selectee. You be the auditioner, she the auditionee.
Now, here’s the other cool thing. You’ve probably noticed how guys tend to line up for hot girls, and hot girls line up for celebrities.
Reason is, high-status and personality attracts women the way healthy, fertile bodies with round hips, a shapely ass, and full, firm breasteses attract us.
So this character allows you to ROLE-PLAY that high-status male hot girls line up for. Instead of putting her on pedestal, she becomes a “cute” groupie who’s chasing you. Way better.
“The Authority Figure” and “The Selector” characters are high-status males who’re unaffected by hot women because he’s got an abundance of them already. He’d rather be with a girl who’s got a beautiful heart than just a beautiful ass (not that he doesn’t like the beautiful ass, mind you).
“The Valley Girl” is somewhat different. Girls tend to use the same lines to guys when he approaches them badly. For example, “quit looking at my chest, my eyes are up here.” Give those lines to her before she does. Not only does she laugh, she can’t give you those lines anymore. Pre-emptive strike!
But also, with “The Valley Girl” there’s this sense of “I’m so high-status I’ve gotta push you away,” too. In a funny way, of course. To make her laugh. Never in a rude, literal way (even though a girl may pull this on us).
The lesson behind these characters? Don’t put her on a pedestal just ‘cause she’s beautiful. See past her physical beauty. Be playfully dominant, and connect human-to-human with her.
Let me underline this point.
‘Cause no matter how pretty she is, she’s still human. She still has insecurities and imperfections. The pedestal only exists in the mind, not in reality. Be independent and free from needing to have her. Inside, she’s just an average girl who wants love. She’s not non-human ‘cause she’s a beautiful freak of nature.
That’s the beauty of these characters. It allows us to look beyond a woman’s physical looks so we’re not blinded by them. So we can connect with her human-being-to-human-being. To connect with the spirit inside.
Let me give you some examples of what each of these characters might say:
#1. The Authority Figure:
“That’s it I’m giving you detention.” (The Principal)
“You’re fired!” (The Boss)
“I don’t know who your boyfriend is but he is not spanking you enough.” (The Daddy)
#2. The Valley Girl:
“At least buy me a drink first… And don’t put any roofies in there!”
“You’re looking at me like a fat kid looks at a cheeseburger. And it’s creeping me out.”
“I wore my old briefs tonight to make sure nothing would happen.”
#3. The Selector:
“Note to self: do not date this girl.”
“You’re such a brat.”
“I can already tell you and I would NOT get along.”
It’s playful. It’s about positive energy. It’s playful dominance. Not literal. Make-believe. But you’re still setting a romantic-sexual context, and teasingly pushing her away. Like sexual tag. “You’re it!” Pretend she wants you. Even though she’s laughing, she’ll start to believe it.
STEP TWO. Act out the character.
Here’s how you’ll make her laugh. ACT OUT the character. Like Robin Williams.
Part of what makes Robin so funny is how he ACTS out his characters. Sometimes his words aren’t even that funny, but it’s the way he plays a character that really kills you. The lines come out of the character.
That’s the key to step two. Get into the character. Be it. Then exaggerate it so she knows you’re kidding. Acting out the stereotype’ll make her laugh.
And let me say this again. Humor has a kernel of truth, otherwise it’s not funny. So, if she laughs, she’s accepted the frame that you’re the prize, she wants you, and you’re preselected by women.
Sweet! All on a subconscious level.
And shit tests girls like to give us? Deal with them in character. Misinterpret them as her hitting on you. ‘You’re so cute. You’re so into me.’ She laughs. Shit-tests handled.
Awesome, awesome, awesome.
STEP THREE. Push her away… yet be slightly interested.
Now, ever noticed how all chick flicks start off with the two leads not getting along in the beginning? Then their “chemistry” blossoms into “love”?
That’s the idea behind “pushing her away.” Pretend you and her are two leads in a rom-com who don’t get along at first.
This “not getting along” was a revelation to me. Because it meant NOT being all perfect and polite and kissing her ass. Which creates zero chemistry. And comes off as fake and stilted.
Pushing her away feels more honest. And it leaves this empty space between you and her. That empty space is like a gravitational pull that’ll draw her to you.
It’s the law of opposites. Step forward, she steps back. Step back, she steps forward.
In other words, when you step back, it creates a want in her. ‘Cause that’s what wanting is. Isn’t wanting NOT having? When you don’t have, don’t you feel tension because you don’t have it? And as soon as you get it, doesn’t the want and the tension go away?
Wow, that was a lot of questions in one paragraph.
My point is, if you step back… as if she’s trying to get into your pants… as if you’re playing tug-o-war… as if you’re playing tag: ‘Catch me if you can!’… you’ll make her want, well, YOU!
Besides, hide-and-seek is fuuuun! Infants play it, kids play it. Hell, puppies play it. That’s all ‘The Game’ is. Hiding in order to entice her to seek.
Without conflict, things are flat, dull, lifeless. Conflict breathes life into things. Whether movies, music, interactions with women.
What is conflict? It’s the collision between desire and resistance. Play-fighting assumes a girl wants you. She desires you. You resist. Viola! Conflict.
It’s PLAYFUL conflict ‘cause everyone knows it’s not real. Usually her role’s to resist and reject. Especially if she’s super-hot and gets hit on constantly.
You can also apply play-fighting to text-messaging. Instead of having a factual back-and-forth with her, “So how was your day?”
Boooooring. Play-fight! “Stop thinking about me” or “Hello beautiful (20 seconds later) “Oops, texted the wrong chick,” or “Tough love is all you get.” Much better.
You can apply it in sex, too. Go towards her “promised land,” but take a detour at the last minute. Builds anticipation. Which turns on her mind. Turn on her mind and her panties will follow.
You can even apply this to relationship-maintenance. The moment you stop play-fighting with your girl and generating playful conflict is the moment the relationship’s heading south. Believe me. I speak from experience.
Okay, enough of the talk. Let me give you some lines and guidelines so you can try out play-fighting TODAY.
Three rules to follow:
RULE ONE: Play-fight within two sentences.
When approaching a girl for the first time, play-fight within the first two sentences out of your mouth. Also known as the “Second Sentence Rule.”
RULE TWO: Play-fight with your target.
Play-fight with your target to create sexual tension with her. But never ignore her friends. Be nice to them, but no need to create sexual tension with them. To everyone else it looks like “you’re not getting along.” But secretly with your target the two of you feel chemistry. Nice.
RULE THREE: Limit play-fighting to three exchanges.
Keep it to three back-and-forth exchanges. After three exchanges, shift over to establishing some substance, meaning build a connection with her. Otherwise, you might become like a dancing monkey. Yawn.
Okay, here’s how to practice the lines I’m about to give you.
THE WHAT NOW:
FIRST: Pick ONE line.
Pick your favorite line below. Just one. Too many lines swimming in your head causes analysis-paralysis.
TWO: Memorize it.
Memorize the line by saying it to yourself five times.
THREE: Practice it.
Say the line five times in the mirror. This is to get your delivery right and to make sure you ACT out the character. It might feel strange at first. Trust me, it’ll pay off BIG TIME. The humor is in the character.
FOUR: Deliver it.
Try the line on five different women. Cashiers, baristas, sales clerks, female friends. And if you’re feeling brave, try it on girls on the street.
Now, if you try it on a girl on the street, you can open with: “Hey you guys look cool, just wanted to see what you were like.” Then deliver your line. Finally, end with: “Pleasure meeting you.”
If a conversation happens, keep going. You could ask: “How do you guys know each other?” Then follow up with “I wonder which one is the black sheep.”
Don’t worry about getting a phone number yet. Just practice the skill of play-fighting.
The practice’ll change your game, even your life… like it did for me.
Let me pay homage to the guys I learned this skill from: David DeAngelo, Lance Mason, and Mystery. Brad P uses the same skill to create instant attraction, too.
Anyway, that’s THE way to attract women instantly.
The best thing about it is it’ll give you this incredible social freedom and fill you with the positive energy and the CONFIDENCE that attract women naturally.
I can’t wait for you to see how well it works.
Now, go out and kill it.
CLASSIC PLAY-FIGHTING LINES
STEP ONE: Chose a high-status character.
Authority, Valley Girl, or Selector.
STEP TWO: Act it out.
Acting it out will make it absurd and funny. Even if the lines aren’t that funny.
STEP THREE: Make-believe she wants you and she’s chasing you.
Even if she’s not. Then resist her.
NOTE on the Approach, or “A1.”
Wait, what’s “A1”? A1, A2, and A3 are terms that come from the Mystery Method. “A” stands for “Attract.” 1, 2, 3 refer to the beginning, middle, and ending of the “attract” phase.
A1, guy opens. A2, guy attracts girl (i.e. he play-fights and gives value). A3, girl works to attract him (i.e. he qualifies, then expresses interest in her).
After you attract (the attract phase lasts a few minutes), the second phase is “Comfort” where you make a connection. That’s a longer phase. Lasts between four to ten hours, seven on average.
“Seduction” is the final stage where that emotional connection translates into a physical one. The key to that translation is touch and physical escalation. How do you physically escalate? By already having been touching, even in Comfort.
We didn’t have enough space to get into all that, but again, check out my book “Mystery of Women” for the whole shebang. I go into more detail there.
Also, “How To Pick Up Chicks in Five Simple Steps” zones in on the attract phase and shows you how to transition into comfort. That’s a great next step after you practice the stuff in this letter.
Okay, so practice play-fighting. Soon you’ll learn the “language” and make up your own stuff.
Oh and by the way, feel free to print this letter out for easy reference of the lines.
Now for the CLASSIC PLAY-FIGHTING LINES AND THEIR CHARACTERS
::: A1. OPENING :::
I know I sound like a broken record, but pick just ONE line. I also included Brad P’s “Horse Girl” routine as an opener too. It’s a great play-fighting routine. Learning it counts as “one line.” Anyway, master one before learning another.
“Wait, you’re Republican aren’t you.”
“You guys are trouble. I can already tell.”
“Don’t look at me like that. You’ll get hypnotized and start thinking naughty thoughts.”
“She looks sweet and innocent, but something tells me she’s not.”
“It’s okay. I’m just a sexy man.”
“I used to be too modest. But I worked at it and now I’m perfect.”
“Note to self: Do NOT date this girl.”
“Don’t even try hitting on me. I’ve got my eye on you.”
“I can already tell, you and I are NOT gonna get along. So, don’t even try hitting on me.”
Brad P’s “Horse Girl” Opener:
(Full credit goes to Brad P for this genius opener.)
YOU: “I have to ask. Do you like horses?”
YOU: “I thought so. Okay, check this out. When I was in the third grade there was this girl, and she loved horses. She loved them more than anything. She used to draw horses all over her binder, she’d be making horse noises, she’d be running around the schoolyard galloping. We used to call her ‘The Weird Horse Girl.’”
HER: “So why are you telling me this?”
YOU: “Well, you look JUST like her!”
HER: “Well, it’s not me.”
YOU: “You know what? I’m 90% sure it’s not you, but if it was me, I wouldn’t admit it either. So, just in case it’s you—and I’m not saying it’s definitely you—but just in case it’s you and you don’t want to admit it, I just want to say I’m sorry.”
HER: “Sorry for what?”
YOU: “Sorry for all the times I used to make fun of you. See, back in school I was one of the cool kids and I was a bit of a bully and I used to make fun of the The Weird Horse Girl. NOW, I feel so bad. I feel so guilty. I’ve been going to therapy and my therapist says I should find this girl and right all the wrongs of my past, so I just want to say I’m sorry and see if you’d EVER forgive me.”
YOU: (Hugging her) “Oh my God you are so cool! I can’t believe you turned out to be cute and cool. This is like the craziest thing!”
From here you can break character, introduce yourself, ask about her, and build a connection with her.
Brad P’s “Last Night’s Lay” Opener:
(Again, full credit goes to Brad P for this other genius opener.)
YOU: “You look familiar. Have we had sex? Oh my God! Yes, it’s you! It’s so good to see you!”
YOU: “Hey, listen, sorry I haven’t called. Been kind of busy. My, um, phone, um, stopped, um, working and my tire got a flat, and my dog ate my homework. But tell your friend I said hi and that she was great too.”
HER: “It wasn’t me.”
YOU: “It wasn’t you? I could have sworn it was you. You look just like this girl I had sex with last week—actually I can’t quite remember what she looks like, I was kind of drunk…No, I’m pretty sure it was you.”
Lance Mason’s “Back Pocket Opener”:
(Credit goes to Lance Mason. It’s called “back pocket” because you can use it in case you draw a blank as to what to say to open.)
“Hey do you have the time? Actually I just wanted to flirt with you. Is that bad?”
“You looked kinda cool, so I had to say hi.”
2. VALLEY GIRL:
“Quit looking at my chest! My eyes are up here. I swear all you girls do is think about one thing.”
3. AUTHORITY FIGURE (FATHER)
“I don’t know who your boyfriend is, but he is NOT spanking you enough. (Don’t look at me. I’m not doing the spanking. I’m just saying you need one.)”A2. You Attract Her
::: A2. DHV :::
While sharing who you are with the group, you can use ONE of these lines here to tease your target.
1. AUTHORITY FIGURE
“You’ve just earned yourself detention. Go to the Principal’s Office!”
“You’re hired. I’m making you my new assistant.”
“You’re off the island!”
C. Police Officer
“I’m giving you a ticket.”
“Bad Girl! Go to my room.”
“I think someone needs a time-out.”
“No more love for you. Tough love is all you get from here on out.”
2. VALLEY GIRL
“You’re looking at me like I’m an ice cream cone and it’s creeping me out. I’m not just a piece of meat. I have feelings. I’m a feelings man.”
“I wore my old briefs tonight to make sure nothing happened.”
“Why are girls always so logical? Why can’t they just feel and be in the moment?”
“You’re my new BFF! Best Friends Forever!”
“I’m putting you in my friend’s zone.”
A. I’m Screening You
“That’s it, I’m going to talk to those more interesting girls over there.”
“You’re bad. You’re making me think impure thoughts.”
“I think I need permission to talk with you.”
B. Plain Cocky
“No autographs please.”
C. You’re Not My Type
“Too bad you’re not my type.”
“(look her up and down) You can’t have me.”
D. Name Calling
“You’re such a brat.”
“You’re such a dork.”
“You hang out at the library, don’t you.” (works best if she looks like she doesn’t hang out at the library.)
“So, how long have you been a crack head?”
“You would look so cute… with a mowhawk!”
“Check this girl out. She’s amazing, and so bright and funny. Would you believe she’s never had a date?”
E. Oh Yeah? Wanna Fight?
“You think you can take me? Let’s take this outside.”
F. We’re Breaking Up!
“I’m sorry this had to come out here tonight, but it’s over between us.
That’s it. I’m demoting you to my Tuesday girlfriend. But if you work hard enough you can become my Friday girlfriend. That’s where the real fun happens.”
“I’m breaking up with you. You keep the cat. I’ll keep the CDs.”
::: CONTINGENCIES :::
In case you come against any shit-tests, you can use these play-fighting lines to deal with them.
A. Contingencies: If She Touches You
(No Authority Figure or Valley Girl Characters here)
“Did you just go for a feelsky?”
“Hey, hey, hey. Hands off the merchandise. This shit ain’t for free. That’ll be forty dollars, missie.”
“Stop, don’t touch me. I don’t even know you.”
“Lady I’m not going to make out with you! I have a girlfriend! Jeez.”
You: “Will you PLEASE stop touching me?
(She: Oh, I’m sorry, I didn’t know I was touching you.)
You: “Well you did. And if you’re going to keep doing it, I’d appreciate it if you’d touch a little lower.”
(She: Touchy touchy)
You: “Yes, I don’t like being touched. So keep a foot or so between us please.” *Smile* (Credit: David DeAngelo, Double Your Dating)
“So, this is the part where you grab my ass.”
B. Contingences: Shit-Tests
(No Authority Figure or Valley Girl Characters here)
“Man, you can dress her up but you can’t take her anywhere.”
“How do you roll with this girl? Is she always like this?”
“You’ve gotta get her out of the library more.”
“Did you forget to take your medication today?”
“Where’s your fun switch?”
“Is she always like this?”
“How do you guys roll with her?”
“You’re so cute. You’re so into me.”
“Oh I get it. You probably act like this all the time and probably get away with it too, but I don’t buy it. You probably act like a bitch and convince people you’re a bitch because so many dorks hit on you. But I bet you’re actually a really nice person. I bet you’re really loyal, and you really care about your friends and family, you go out of your way for them. You’re like a piece of hard candy that’s rock hard on the outside, but at the center is soft and sweet.” (credit: Brad P)
::: A3. After She Attracts You, State Your Interest In Her :::
After you share yourself, ask about her so she can share herself. These play-fighting lines can make her feel liked for legitimate reasons… and in a humorous way.
(No Authority Figure or Valley Girl Characters here)
“That’s it. I’m making you my new girlfriend. Wait. Can you cook?”
“Oh my God you are so CUTE! I’m going to take you home in my little pocket and ask my roommates if I can keep you. Wait. Are you housebroken?”
“That’s it, we’re getting married. We’re gonna fly to Vegas tomorrow and get married… by a midget Elvis. You’ll be Catwoman, and I’ll be Batman. It’ll be awesome.”
“You know what I wanna do with you? I want us to go to the beach together. You’d wear a nun’s outfit and I’d wear a priest’s outfit and we’d hold hands and make out in front of everybody. And everybody would be like, ‘what the fuck?’ It’d be awesome.”
“That’s it. I’m in love with you. Now what?”
“You’re way too sexy. Get out of here. No really… go!”
A few years ago, I joined Mystery’s Venusian Arts as a coach-in-training. To get accepted as a coach, I had to approach and attract women in front of Mystery. I had a year to get my act together, and I wasn’t ready.
Um, just a smidge. But man, is fear a motivator.
I went out four times a week and made ten to twenty approaches each time. I did this for about eight months. Tracked my approaches and journaled what was working and what wasn’t.
I failed more times than I’d like to admit. There were a few times I just wanted to give up. But I kept at it. And I’m so glad I did.
The turning point was when I learned what I just shared with you here. Play-fighting. Everything changed for the better when I learned this skill.
After that, things got easier with women. My success-rate in approaching went through the roof because play-fighting broke the ice. It helped me gain more confidence. I was able to handle shit-tests. I created sexual tension with women I once thought were out of my league.
Soon I was having crazy adventures, threesomes, foursomes, dating multiple women at the same time (in an honest way), and eventually getting into the most successful long-term relationship I’ve had with an incredible woman.
But better than all that external success was the confidence I gained.
I learned how to be funnier, speak with better body language, dress better, have more interesting conversations. And I no longer felt nervous around women. I didn’t think of myself as lesser. I learned that I was the prize. That attitude in and of itself is the cologne that attracts women.
Now I know I can go out anytime, anywhere and attract women I’m attracted to. On purpose.
But learning this play-fighting skill was just the beginning. I had also figured out a cool way to approach any woman that translated into a solid number close consistently.
I’ve written an awesome ebook revealing EXACTLY how to do it. It’s the “How To Pick Up Chicks In Five Simple Steps” I mentioned earlier. After you read it, YOU’LL be closing any woman you want, too. Emphasis is on practice, although there’s theory too. You can download it and be reading it NOW if you’d like.
It’s jam-packed with more lines. You’ll get a structure you can plug the lines into. There are specifics on body language. There’s a kiss close and a number close. I drew illustrations of the body language. I give you a practice plan. And I even wrote out an entire example so you can see the approach in action.
The ebook focuses on attracting women you’ve just met and how to transition that into building comfort, or long-lasting attraction.
It’s inexpensive and, again, you can download your copy (link coming soon). After you get the play-fighting skill down, this book’ll help you take the next step.
As for that comprehensive book I mentioned earlier, “The Mystery of Women,” it’s coming later this year (2015), by winter. It’s the most complete education product for turbo-charging your success with women in the world.
In the meantime, practice play-fighting. As you now know, it’s THE key to attracting women instantly.
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