Ask Her For A Favor
Ask her for a favor once in a while.
For example, you don’t have to drive miles and miles to go see her. Let her drive to see you. You don’t have to be the one who’s always giving her massages. Let her give you a massage. You don’t have to be the one who’s always getting her a drink. Let her get you a drink.
The reason is simple. The more she invests in you, the more she’ll fall for you.
People don’t value free. People value things they work for. Things they have to struggle a little for. Things that cost them a little something.
For good reason, too. We grow when we work for things, not when we’re handed them for free.
Here’s another reason to ask her for a favor once in a while. She’ll backwards rationalize why she’s going out of her way for you. “I must like him,” she might say to herself. And that ain’t never a bad thing, right?
If you’re thinking this sounds a lot like qualification… you’re absolutely, 100%, right. It’s just extending that idea into relationships.
Like we talked about in that little qualification discussion, her attraction grows not when we give to her, but when she gives to us.
Completely counter-intuitive. Believe me, I know.
Now, don’t get me wrong. Getting her small gifts, opening the door for her, giving her massages is great. Fantastic. And I do all that for my girl.
Just make sure you receive, too. Let her give as well.
But here’s where it gets really cool.
One of the things that attracts women… is a guy who knows where he’s going in life. A guy with purpose. A guy who’s discovered his gift and who’s working to give it to the world with all his heart.
Like the Buddha once said: “Your work is to discover your work and give yourself to it with all your heart.”
The beauuuutiful thing is you can combine this idea of qualification (i.e. asking her for a favor) and having purpose. Double whammy, baby!
For example, if your passion is music, have her pick up some guitar strings at the store for you. If you have a business of some sort, have her help you in your business in some way.
She’s investing in you, she’s helping you serve your purpose, AND you get to spend some quality time together. Can you say “attractive”? Haha
So, ask her to do little favors for you, especially when it’s connected with living your purpose. Show her mucho gratitude to her afterwards. And of course return the favor later on.
It can do wonders in keeping your relationship alive.
Credit: Vin Di Carlo, “S Cubed.”