Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. Hold on. Are you trying to tell me you don’t arouse her until the SEVENTH phase?
Exactly.
What’re you crazy?
Hey man, foreplay ain’t till the seventh phase of a pickup. What can I say? Attract her FIRST.
That means open the set. Phase 1. Attract your target. Phase 2. And qualify your target. Phase 3. Duration: approximately 5 minutes.
Build trust and comfort with her SECOND.
Isolate her in the venue you met her. Phase 4. Bounce her to a venue not in the pickup location and not in the seduction location. Phase 5. Invite her back to your place. Phase 6. Duration: a few hours.
THEN you can arouse her. Phase 7.
So, you’re telling me not to kiss her until then?
No, no, no, no.
When you first kiss a girl it’s NOT to arouse her. It’s to build comfort. Kiss her for the first time during the comfort phase. And when you first kiss, DON’T be sticking your tongue down her throat, making out, or anything like that. Kiss on the lips (without tongue), then pull away.
There’s a classic example of this in Woody Allen’s “Annie Hall.” Check it out:
The first kiss is just to build comfort now. You eliminate the “friend zone.” And it makes it easier to get down and busy later when you’re alone with her.
Save foreplay for the SEVENTH phase. You’ll see some guys make out with a girl in public. Don’t do this. Save it for private. When you’ve attracted her and built a connection with her, THEN you can arouse her in private.
Wanna know the coolest part of waiting this long?
You build waaaaaaay more sexual tension.
For example, BEFORE foreplay:
- DO touch her always, holding her hand, giving her a kiss, a massage, a playful nudge, whatever.
- DO bounce her to several locations before you invite her back to your place.
- DO introduce her to other people, so she sees you’re a social person.
- DO say “I’m trying so hard not to kiss you” before you kiss.
- DO say “Let’s slow this down” when you first kiss. And pull away.
- DO always be willing to walk away, never crowding her or supplicating to her.
- DO have her sit down when she comes into the seduction location, get her a drink, talk, relax for a bit. DON’T pounce on her.
By that time she’ll often do the seduction for you.
In a way, all this IS foreplay. Maybe what I should say is: don’t AROUSE her till the seventh phase of a pickup.
After you’ve talked a bit in the living room, kiss her again. You’ve been doing it all along. But now you can kiss her to AROUSE her.
And lead her into the bedroom.
My point is, no need to rush into sex. Do touch and kiss for those few hours before she’s alone in a seduction location with you. Hold off on arousing her till that private time. You’ll build sexual tension, sidestep last minute resistance (phase 8), make sex (phase 9) something she wants, and avoid “buyer’s remorse” later.
Okay, fine. But how do arouse her during this “seventh” phase?
THAT’S an excellent question. I’ve got some stuff on all that in the “Sex” section of this website. Check it out if you’d like. But it’s basically the same principle. The more anticipation and teasing and not-rushing-into-sex you do, the more aroused she gets. Funny how that works, huh?
Turn on her mind, and her panties will follow. That’s the whole beauty of waiting till the seventh phase.